19-year-old bride. NINETEEN year old bride. Young, naive, in love, stupid. As I’ve been home planning my wedding these past few months I have learned that getting married young is not socially acceptable. Not at all. I have been teased about how I “must be pregnant” or I’m “just in it for the sex.” I have heard the whispering voices say, “there’s no way she’s ready”, “it will never last”, “they’re rushing into it, wait until the honeymoon stage leaves.” And I have cried. I have silently begged for the support and love of those around me, wishing that my happiness was good enough. I have sought after the approval of countless people who don’t matter. Strangers. And I have learned. I have learned that none of that is important. Those people who talk? They’re forgetting a few things.
They have forgotten that being in love is NOT stupid. It is scary. It means being vulnerable. It means putting someone else’s needs in front of yours while remembering that you deserve respect, kindness, and, yes, love. It is beautiful. They have forgotten that being young does not mean naive. They have forgotten that it is okay to not know everything. I have no idea how to change a tire on my car. If you gave me all the ingredients, I would never be able to turn them into a pie without at least calling my mom. I don’t know all the tips and tricks to grocery shopping with coupons and I surely don’t know how to be a perfect wife but, boy, I am excited to learn. Even more? I’m excited to learn with my spouse. Being married is not about being ready. If it was, none of us would ever reach that step. I don’t believe anyone is ever completely ready for a life change this big, and that’s okay. To me, it’s about so much more. As I picture my future with Colin let me assure you, it is not all roses and sunshine. I am completely aware that it is not an IF we hit hardships, it is a WHEN. They will come and they will test our love, our strength, our marriage. They will be scary. At times, it will be rocky. We will have to remember our decision, our commitment, to stand strong as the boat rocks, and each surrounding force tries to push us overseas. I am and will continue to use everything I have, to keep from falling overboard. I am determined to never forget the little things. The butterflies I felt when he first grabbed my hand, and the sparks that exploded from my chest when he said I love you. I refuse to become “comfortable.” Comfort means there is no growth, and marriage is about growing together. So, you better believe me when I say I am going to do everything in my power to keep challenging our relationship, to continue finding new ways to show my appreciation, to remember that Colin’s snoring is not a reason to be upset and my hangriness is not his fault. And to all you young brides? Quit thinking you need permission to be happy. Those dreams you have of exploring the world while young, of kissing in the middle of cooking as dinner burns on the stove, of dying old and in love? Make them happen. Fight for them. Don’t you dare let your spark die. Don’t you dare believe for a second that those whispering voices are right.
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Lori Livingston
7/23/2017 04:39:47 pm
Abbey!!! You are amazing ❤️ You and the love you guys share have been a great example to me. Glad you're not letting those people tear you down. You deserve the world and I can't wait to see the rest of your journey together!! Love you girl. Also, you're invite was the cutest thing I've seen.
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Lori
7/23/2017 04:41:34 pm
I do know the difference between you're and your, I was just too overcome with how cute that picture of you guys is that I wasn't paying attention to that 😉
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Venita
7/26/2017 09:21:51 am
Thank you for this. I wish you and yours so much happiness.
Maribel Cooke
7/27/2017 09:29:03 am
My husband and I have been married for four years. We were both 19 when we got married. In fact we got married 12 days after he turned 19. Yes, getting married in this era is most than likely not accepted not just by the media, but also by others. In the end their opinions shouldn't matter. We were high school sweethearts, and when he graduated high school he went in to the United States Marine Corps boot camp. Thereafter, he graduated as a proud marine. Yes, I was still in high school and believe me when others found out I was engaged their expression of shock never disappeared. My husband and I have grown our love for each other through tears and laughs. Now we are parents to our two month old blessing. Was it worth it? Absolutely! If I could change the past, that's one thing I wouldn't change. Growing older in our love for each other will show others that even if one is young, true love does exist. The things that matter in life are the things that you value. Others judgement of your marriage flies out the window, when you know what marriage is truly about. Marriage is about loving each other, forgetting and forgiving errors, not being remorseful, knowing it's a commitment for life. But the most important thing is having a relationship with God as a married couple. God, as well as your husband, love unconditionally, above any mistakes you have ever made. May God shower many blessing upon your marriage, like He has done with mine.
Danni
7/27/2017 10:29:24 am
Fucking spelling police. Your annoying. You probably don't even like the picture just wanna bitch about her spelling
Jackie
7/27/2017 03:08:35 pm
@ Danni... You should really re-read the comment...Lori was making fun of her own spelling error because she was just too overcome by the cuteness of their picture. Simmer down! Geesh!
Sharee
7/29/2017 05:48:44 pm
Many fall "in love" when it's really lust. Love takes years to grow. When you first meet it's the endorphins and after roughly 7 years those go away and what's left is what keeps the relationship together. That's why many marriages.. no matter the age.. fall apart. ive seen many people bow to be together forever and break apart a few years later after all the newness is gone, only time will tell.
Ashley weeks
7/8/2018 07:33:05 pm
Omg. Tears. I’m 22 never been married but have finally found happiness. And can’t wait to marry him.
Julie
7/17/2018 04:53:08 pm
I was 16 when I got married and he was 17. In sept of 2018 we will celebrAte anniversary 43. And I haven’t regretted it at all.
Christine Hutchison,
7/25/2017 11:31:01 am
I married my husband 16 days after I turned 19 and 3 months after he turned 19. He joined the Navy, came home on leave and we were married. Now, 55 years later we are still together, raised 3 children and have 7 grandchildren. We moved away after marriage to serve his 4 years in the service. It was a blessing, as we had 4 years of no running to momny/daddy, no phone. We learned to live with one another. I'm still madly in LOVE WITH MY HUSBAND.💝💖🌸
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Elizabeth
7/25/2017 07:23:27 pm
55 yrs here too, husband in Navy we made it though
Faye Whaley
7/26/2017 12:06:10 am
What a beautiful testimony of a teamwork marriage! Congrats on the many years of wedded bliss!
Karleen
7/26/2017 02:40:47 am
I was 18 and my husband was 19. He joined the Marines almost 2 years afterwards. He just retired this year and we are still two peas in a pod. Three kids and one grandbaby on the way. Things couldn't be better. It takes work but love will get you through. Beautiful story.
Elisa Stofko
7/26/2017 07:55:54 am
My husband was in the Army when we met in 1996, we were 18, married at 19-20 and had our son when we were 21. It hasn't always been easy however we have grown together and came out the other side of issues stronger. I believe in true love and when you know, you know 😉
Amie
7/26/2017 10:33:16 am
Thanks for sharing your story. I just stumbled upon this blog at the right time. Our son is 18 & leaving for the Navy in 13 days. He proposed to his girlfriend of almost 3 years this past weekend & they want to get married sometime next year after he is done with A school. We worry about their marriage being so new & deployment looming. It is nice to hear all the stories of marriages lasting through them.
JoAnn
7/26/2017 11:25:37 am
Sara
7/26/2017 11:42:19 am
We got married when we were 19. Hubby joined the Army, we moved 8 hours away, then moved overseas for 18 months, had twins and we are still together 46 years later! Moving away from my Mom and his Dad was the best thing we ever did! We learned to depend on each other. We are still in love!
Tracey Guthrie
7/26/2017 02:26:27 pm
Same here. We were 18 and 20 and the army took us to Europe. Best thing that could happen to our marriage.
Kelly Stone
7/26/2017 02:32:58 pm
We were high school sweethearts as well, met each other when we were 5! That's unheard of today and some people just don't get that. Our friendship is the strongest part of our marriage and I believe you have to have that to make a marriage last. I was married to my husband at 19 as well. He was in the NAVY our first four years too. High school sweethearts do still exist. I love him even more now than I did then. I never knew that would be possible back then. We have been married 18 years now. I heard all the whispers and the comments as well. Don't listen- follow your heart! I wish you and your husband all the best!
Marya
7/26/2017 03:39:13 pm
My husband and I met in June of 83. We were 18 and 19. He had already enlisted in the Marine Corps. He left in Oct. of 83 returned in Dec. of 83 . We got married on the 31 of Dec. of 83. Have been going strong for 33 years. It isn't the age . It's the desire and willingness to make it work.
Kalani
7/26/2017 03:44:55 pm
I absolutely think this was beautiful and true💓💓💓🌏
Renee Green
7/26/2017 06:04:03 pm
My husband and I married when we were almost 19. Thirty one years later, we are still going strong!!
Alyson
7/26/2017 07:16:11 pm
This is amazing! I am 21 years old and about to marry my fiance in 2 months. Every time I meet someone new they always question why we are getting married so young and honestly it's because he's military but I know in my heart that he is the person I want to love and fight with for the rest of my life! On the good and the bad I want him by my side. It's been really hard because since I made my decision to marry him I lost my relationship with my dad and it's been hard coping with not having him in my life but I know I am better for it right now because I needed to start thinking about not just my life but our life together and our life makes everything I am going threw worth it. It's great to see I am not the only one going through similar issues. Thank you
Reana Wright
7/26/2017 07:43:19 pm
This is truly amazing! I married my husband two months before I turned 18. Yes it was hard to convince my parents that I was ready for this but I did and it was the best decision I have ever made. My husband joined the army a week after we married and now it has been two years and I can't wait for the years to come! I can't wait till we reach 55 years of marriage!
Wow. This story touched my heart about you guys. Maybe u can send me an email and I could tell u alil about my story that way u can possibly help me. I'm happy to here u guys are still staying strong after so many years. Much love
Natalie
7/26/2017 11:12:47 pm
Love your story. My great grandfather was in the Navy and glad my gram waited for him throughout the war. They were high school sweethearts and were together til the end of their days.
Lynn
7/27/2017 05:02:42 am
Similar start to life! We were both 19, he joined the Navy after high school, he came home on leave from boot camp and we married! We were married for 14 years before we decided to have our first child, we have two children ages 16 and 12. My husband served 26 years and retired almost 4 years ago! Still very happily married for 30 years in April!! He still gives me butterflies!!! ❤️
Tina
7/27/2017 07:02:36 am
I meet my husband when I was 15 and he was 16we had know each other since I was 6 he was friends with my brother. He is my best friend and I love him as much today as I did then. He not in any of the military so we have made it without any help. When we got married my parents told me not to come running home. It was hard their was slot of ups and down. I understand what you are talking about people talking and saying we would never make it. But 3 children and 6 grandchildren later we are still married. 43 years ago I was told it will never last but it has. The only thang I can tell you do loose who you are always let him know if you don't like something don't just go with what he wants if you do t tell him you don't like something then you will just become an object that he owns and control
Jessica
7/27/2017 08:28:59 am
I just found this blog shared on Facebook. My husband and I started dating when I was 15 and he was 17. He joined the Army after his senior year. He enlisted August 2001, right before 9-11. After his basic training and AIT, when it was known he would immediately be deployed to Afghanistan, he came home for a four day weekend,after not seeing each other for 3 months, and we went to Las Vegas and got married. I was 17 1/2 and he was 19 1/2. His enlistment and subsequent deployment prompted the quick elopement style wedding, however, even without this we knew we would have gotten married shortly after I graduated. Many many people questioned our getting married so young, thinking we couldn't possible know what it takes to make a successful marriage. We have now been very happily married for over 15 years. You work every day to grow together. Some days are easier than others. Choose to love each other every day and be each other's best friend. That's all it takes. Good luck!
Denise
7/27/2017 07:36:34 pm
I think that's wonderful
Veneta
7/28/2017 03:44:08 pm
We married at 19 too. And I am so glad we did. We had 3 children and 10 grandchildren. He died after 32 years of marriage. We had a wonderful marriage. I miss him so much. If we had waited to get married we would not have had as much wonderful time together. All those that said we were too young were so wrong!!!!
Jenifer Gardner
7/28/2017 06:49:45 pm
My husband and I were 18 and 19. We have been happily married for 22 years. Yes there are ups and downs but we would not trade a thing. You live love and learn together and you will be fine :)
Samantha Bully
7/29/2017 07:47:04 am
I met my husband while he was in the Navy. I was 17 him 20. I turned 18 six days after meeting him that was in September of 1991. We got married in January of 92. We have raised 2 beautiful children that we basically grew up with. We have been married 25 years our children are, our daughter is 24 and our son is 22. They are 20 months apart. Of course we have had are struggles at times, but I wouldn't change anything 💜
Sharon Fousy
7/31/2017 06:16:12 am
I was 19.... when I got married....47 years ago. Still married, still love him.
Wasielah
8/5/2017 01:34:06 am
That is the best advice to give newly weds DO NOT LIVE WITH YOUR PARENTS OR FAMILY when you start out or ever!! Stay on your own or with strangers if you have to, as this is the time you get to know each other without "good meaning"interference. I will be married 30 years this year and also got married "young".
Sarah
7/25/2017 04:25:29 pm
My husband was 19, and I was 21 when we got married in 1978. People said the same things about ys. Been married 39 years.
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Andrea
7/25/2017 08:14:49 pm
I, too, am 21 and husband is 19 when we wed. We wed last year December 31, 2016- on New Years Eve! I'm so glad I followed through with my heart. ❤️
Beth ann
7/26/2017 10:03:31 am
Just celebrated 39 also. I was 19 he was 20. Great life
Crystal
7/26/2017 03:33:51 pm
I was 22 and my husband was 19 when we married! Our daughter was born later that year! That was 10 years ago and still going strong!
Paige Valentine
7/26/2017 05:40:45 pm
Girl you've set such a great example for the younger generation to be yourself and not let other stop you by listening to their unnecessary comments. I look up to you for standing up for not only yourself but your husband and future family. Congratulations 🎉🎊🎈🍾 girly and stay strong!
Heather
7/27/2017 09:28:01 am
I was, also, 21 and my husband 19 when we got married. We have been married 27 years and still going strong. I think it's all about the realization that it will not always be easy and it will take work, but it is definitely worth it.
Tomara Roden.
7/25/2017 06:54:10 pm
Thank you! I got married this year at 18 years old to my husband. I've never just got a congratulations without something to follow with a insult. I've been told and called a manipulator, a gold digger, only marrying him for the benefit (he's in the military), pregnant, stupid, it won't last soon, a mistake, etc. I finally have I guess someone who actually went through the stuggle I have and fully understanding how upsetting and hurt it is to hear these things come from family, friends and stranger. Congratulations! For getting married to the love of your life and staying strong through it all, my hat goes off to you and your husband.
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Sharon
7/26/2017 05:28:03 pm
Well, then, you have waited too long for this: congratulations! I hope you have a long and wonderful marriage!
Joy
7/27/2017 12:12:11 pm
Girl same! Best of luck to you and your man!
Charity
7/19/2018 06:42:49 am
I've only been dating my soon to be fiance for a month and as a mormon, this kind of thing is encouraged to marry young, however there are other issues that arise in all kinds of situations. If we get engaged or married very early in a relationship, people think we're jumping the gun or making a rash decision because of pressure. If we wait too long, people think we're just nervous or hindering each other because it's not right. Even my parents, who were both married previously to marrying each other tell me to make sure i pray (i have, with emphatic positive response to marrying him) and that there will be a lot of things that change (i already live by myself and I'm completely aware of what marriage entitles) even if I'm not ready for that change, as i know I'm not, I know Braden will be there with me to help me adjust to the change. I'm 19 as well and I'm so excited to marry him, but i tend to give in to pressure from my parents about how soon it is, and this post from you will hopefully help me to think more about what i want and not my parents 7/26/2017 05:09:30 am
I got married at seventeen. I was still in high school
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Rhonda
7/26/2017 06:51:28 am
I turned 18 in July and got married in August! I'm not going to say that it's all been easy, but, anything worth having is worth fighting for! You both have to want your relationship to work and choose to love each other every day! My husband and I will celebrate 34 years of marriage next month! Congrats to you both!
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Rachel
7/26/2017 07:13:51 am
Engaged at 19, married at just over 20, first baby a week after my 21st birthday, 2nd baby by 23. Husband disabled and became sole supporter of my family by age 25. 33 years later still married to the love of my love and wouldn't change a thing ... ❤️. Congrats from one once "too young" bride - love is love is love.
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Coulette
7/26/2017 10:21:57 pm
Rachel - we share the same story! Engaged at 19, married at 20, first child at 21. Two more sons and spouse disabled 10 years after we married. We have been married 38 years and I've been the sole supporter for the last 28 years. He scared me this last winter and almost died from respiratory problems. We are thankful for each day together.
Jordan
7/26/2017 07:30:29 am
I don't even know you, found this link shared by my friend. People used to get married when they were 15, and if they were 19 they'd be getting too old to be married! So keep your head up, your marriage is all about you and your husband, anyone else is irrelevant!
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bonnie meyer
7/26/2017 11:49:11 am
I just wanna say I too married at 19! It lasted a very long time! We were together 17 years and married 15. And I wouldn't have changed any of it! Other than the outcome, and that we didnt work hard to stay married! I loved him with all I was
Margaret Henry
7/26/2017 08:42:34 am
I know what you are talking about I only knew my Husband to be for a total of 4 months and 3 of those months he was overseas temp duty for the Air Force when he returned we were married by the justice of the peace on August 22 1955 we were married for 61 Years 10 months and I loss my SWEETHEART due to a illness so you will make it I know they all knew I had to expecting but if I was it took 7 years for my Precious son to be born I also loss my son at the age of 50 and now I am by myself the only person I have is my Grandson
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Kimberly
7/27/2017 10:31:52 pm
Ms. Margaret, what a beautiful story. I would love to open a dialogue with you. Feel free to email me @ [email protected] if you like.
Debbie
7/26/2017 10:57:04 am
God bless you and your life together have you ever watch 19 Kids and Counting on TLC well they're getting married and they seem to be very very happy you have to just remember a marriage is a hundred hundred and so long as you have God in your life and love you have to do it the way that's best for you I wish you all the best happiness and you take care and God bless the both of you on my email the D is supposed to be a small it wouldn't let me put it in
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Gretchen Bradshaw
7/26/2017 06:24:19 pm
Abbey age is just a number and has nothing to do with love in my opinion. I have many family members that married as teenagers because that was the customs in the 40s and 50s. They made a great life for themselves and had large families and were married over 50 years before they passed away. I wish you both the best of luck, and have many blessings.
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Elizabeth
7/26/2017 07:46:38 pm
I got married at nineteen as well and I am now 21. Have been happily married for two years with our first baby on the way!
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Michelle
7/26/2017 09:13:39 pm
I married my husband when I was 18 and had my first child when I was 18. I am now 36 and I'm still married to the same man. We had a lot of trying times but we made it through them. I love him more today than I did yesterday. And I pray almost every night that God gives me another 40 years with this man. Congratulations and just remember to be patient and kind to each other.
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Shy
7/27/2017 08:09:45 am
Hi, I also just got married May and I'm 18 he's 21 and a Marine. We want to start our family now but almost everyone tells me I'm too young and not ready...
Joy
7/27/2017 04:50:08 am
I was 15 and husband 18. And no I was not pregnant. In a few days we will celebrate 53 years. Ending our marriage has never been an option. You go girl. Marriage is wonderful and challenging but soooooworth it.
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Danni
7/27/2017 10:31:17 am
Sounds like rape!
April
8/2/2017 06:03:02 am
Danni... who says they had sex? I don't remember reading anywhere Joy saying that?? I suggest you move in to another forum Troll.
Joan n Georgev
7/27/2017 04:59:13 am
Oh the story you wrote was that of a girl in love with her beloved boy who is now the dream husband
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Debbie Gurley
7/27/2017 05:32:07 am
Abbey, I was a 19 year old bride and my husband was 20. I sent through the same problems of people thinking I must the pregnant or you are too young. Even our priest felt we were not ready. On August 15, 2017 we are celebrating 30 years of marriage. We grew up together and supported each other but also worked very hard to keep our marriage together. We have 4 boys from 28 to 21 and loving every minute of our lives together. Just remember to love each other, make time for the 2 of you, especially after children come into the picture. Congrats and enjoy the rest of your lives together.
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Katrina
7/27/2017 10:30:16 am
I was 20 when I got married. I married my best friend! We have been together for 22 years and have been married for 17. I wouldn't have changed a moment in my life. I don't regret getting married at a young age. I don't regret one choice we have made. Enjoy your moments, even the arguments. Each moment brings you to the next.
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Ruth
7/27/2017 11:33:26 am
They all said that we wouldn't make it. He was 18 and I was 16.we have been married 49 years this year.yeah we had hard times also but we stayed together and had three sons. I wouldn't change a thing .I loved him then and still love him now.best of luck for you two.
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Danita
7/27/2017 07:54:23 pm
Just love honor, and respect. One another, never go to pedantry and put the Lord first and he will guide and bless you
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Mable
7/29/2017 02:46:42 pm
I don't understand what you are trying to say. Pedantry means lacking imagination...
Phyllis
7/27/2017 07:54:51 pm
Abby you hit it out of the park. I must be honest. When i read the "stupid" part you pissed me off. I said my encouraging words to this beautiful bride and groom. True deep opinions from my perspective. BUT YOU? Well my dear you identified the feelings and opinions Ive struggled to identify and cope with...God Bless
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Shannon
7/28/2017 05:10:29 am
Very well put. Congratulations and best wishes.
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I can only say FOLLOW your. heart . I was was darting an 18 year .old I thought a few tee little items happened at 21 and in the I i felt she deserved to live young. I left her best wish is .She found me on leave drunk in my alone missing her and her mis
7/28/2017 09:37:25 am
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Sharon Aleszczyk
7/28/2017 01:34:13 pm
I was a bride at nineteen and I'm happily married for thirty years. You said it all Remember be true to each other and you will weather the storm. Life is a beautiful thing. I got married 7/23/1982. And still going strong.
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K Smith
7/28/2017 01:54:35 pm
Got married the day i turned 18, and we are still in love almost 50 years now! Just always put your mate before yourself! True love works it out!
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Melissa
7/29/2017 08:17:26 am
I was once that young bride. I turned 20 three days before I got married. This September we will celebrate 30 years of marriage.
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7/29/2017 09:06:12 pm
I cried while reading this,honny you are a wonderful young lady . and so smart you trust in God and pray for his guides and you two will be happy for ever always
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Jenny Darling
7/30/2017 02:52:29 pm
19 to marry is just fine. I teach my girls that they will never be ready for marriage no matter how old they are. It is a learning process marriage, you don't really know what it is till after you are married. It is the same with kids you never are ready but when they come you learn. I married my husband 22 years ago. I was 18 years old he was 21. I had my first child one year later. We are still married. I can say right now it was hard. It still is hard but it would have been just as hard if we had waited till we were older to marry.
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Ron Wasilewski
7/31/2017 09:19:41 am
Young lady you need to ignore stupid people. Your in love and that is what gets you thru. I came back from Vietnam in 1970 and met a beautiful you lady. 13 February 1970 all said we wouldn't make lt. one lieutenant especially
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Carol Suplita
7/31/2017 11:42:47 am
Beautifully written!
Papa jojnny
7/31/2017 05:14:15 pm
You do know we were just 19 when we got married 60+ years ago. Its not your age it is your commitment.
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Amy
8/1/2017 09:28:18 pm
I was 19 and 24 years later still married to my best friend. Live your life your way. No one should judge anyone else. I can't promise, predict, or know if your marriage will work. It takes two people so committed to each other that they will each give and take the same. There are ups and downs but as long as you stay committed to only look to each other to fix your differences and work problems out together, the marriage bond will be so strong no one can break it. Both have to commit the same amount, age has nothing to do with level of commitment. As long as there is no abuse physical or emotional everything else can be worked out together. Don't invite others opinions into your marriage it is only the commitment between you two.
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MAUREEN REYNOLDS MACGREGOR, AKA, "Moe."
8/3/2017 08:46:15 am
I was a 19-year-old bride... 43 & 1\2 years ago! YES, WE ARE STILL MARRIED, AND STILL EACH OTHER'S BFF. God bless you both.
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Beatrice Rodrigues.
8/3/2017 05:55:49 pm
Yes i was one who gots married with 16 years older and everything was a dream. But i learned marriage is a closed letter. And in marriage has to have respect for each other. In the midle of so much problems. I got 3 lovely children and from that 3 children God blessed me with 10 grandchildren. And a gouges grandchild. I'm thankful to God that in the midle of so many tears. Now im reaping with happyness.
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Gracie
8/3/2017 06:47:32 pm
I was married at 18. We were married 39 years we were so in love. Every day was excellent. I lost him to heart desease
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Sara
9/3/2017 06:10:31 pm
This is literally the most beautiful thing I've read in a while❤️
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Michailah
9/17/2017 06:39:49 am
My husband and i got married only 4 months ago and i was 19 he was 24 at the time so we had alot of problems because everyone said the age difference but no we dont let it stop us we both still get the same feelings like when we first meet i know there is many more years to come but just because you get married at a young age doesnt make it bad or wrong, you cant help when and who you fall in love with it just happens
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LaVern Swishet
9/25/2017 03:58:02 pm
I was only 17!When I married the love of my life.I heard all the things you did.Om 82 yrs.old I was married to my love for over50 urs he died 12 yrs ago I miss him everyday so you just prove to the world how much you love each other.Congrats and Have a blessed life❤️🙏🏻
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Jerry
1/10/2018 07:21:50 am
I got married at a young age and 40 years later I'm still married to the same woman do what your heart tells you
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Katherine G
6/10/2018 03:43:40 am
I got married at 19 & married on my husband's 23rd birthday--we just celebrated 25 years of marriage & 27 years as a couple!! Don't listen to the naysayers--I heard it all, they don't know what they're getting into, it won't last, they'll divorce, she must be pregnant (not for another 6 years after marriage), they haven't had their wild time, etc etc--don't listen!! Follow your heart. No matter stick it out, it's you & your spouse against the world!
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Nikki
7/20/2018 06:31:54 pm
My husband and I were married when I was 20. we only dated for a year before he asked me and married 7 years later. I got the same jokes about being pregnant but we weren't and didn't have our oldest son until I was almost 24. We celebrated 11 years on the 4th of July. We have two wonderful little boys 8 and 7. Don't doubt we haven't had our ups and downs but I regret nothing!
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Makayla
7/21/2018 07:12:46 am
I was married to my best friend a month after I turned 18 so I get it that's exactly how I felt and we have been married for a year now and it's the best thing the ever happened to me marriage is everlasting love and now were trying to have a baby.
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Kat
7/22/2018 02:11:26 pm
It is naive, but wbere you get it right is 'who cares'. In my day, and still now, my choice to NOT get married is met with gossip and judgements. The one thing I know is tbat you will learn 2 constants in this life - everything changes and everything you believe now, you will hopefully one day learn to see it a limited viewpoint. So live the way you want, follow your heart and ignore every thing else.
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Lisa Hunt
7/23/2018 09:55:39 am
Love this! Best of luck and always remember your own words...I married at 18 and yes, I was pregnant but I would've married him either way! 37 years later and we are still strong!
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Heather reynolds
7/24/2018 04:35:18 pm
I love this. My husband and I were married when we were 19. That was 18 years ago. And it's hard but I look at him even now and thank God he is here! Good for you!
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8/16/2018 09:49:36 am
If I cloud I would i would have got married when one as 19.
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Kelsey Swanson
7/23/2017 05:41:44 pm
Thank you so much for this.. I had just turned 19 and a month later I married the love of my life. We had dated for a while then engaged for only 4 months. But everyone doubted us,told me in too young. Told me I wasn't ready and it broke me bad. But they are all wrong because like you said I'm learning as I go. With my husband. This is such a beautiful story. Thank you for this. It made me cry♡
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Ally
7/23/2017 07:08:23 pm
Ugh, I can't stand people who hate on others like that! I've personally seen a long string of young love only last a few years, but the love that lasts forever is so heartwarming. My grandma married my grandpa when she was 18, and she looks at him like they are teens again, and it's honestly such a beautiful thing. I love the line that you wrote, "Quit thinking you need permission to be happy". Because you don't! Many people need to read this. Much love! xo
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Ally
7/23/2017 07:08:49 pm
Also: That's a beautiful picture!
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Grandma JoAn
7/23/2017 08:22:48 pm
My Dear Abbey, Your thoughts are written with the love and feeling of a true and lasting love. I was 20 when Grandpa Arnie got married and the sceptics said the same thing to us "too young, haven't finished college, not enough money, Why would you want to do this? ". We knew we loved each other, we knew we would succeed now matter what came our way. We worked together, sometimi would be right somrtimes he would be right. Love is like that! We learned, played, argued and prayed together and we became strong together. We agreed to laugh a lot and never go to bed mad at each other even if we needed to stay up half the night to solve an issue we would kiss each other goodnight then head to bed together. We had " lemon nights ". You sit across from each other and say what is bothering you. If you were told something, that didn't give you license to get mad. It gave you license to improve
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Grandma JoAn
7/23/2017 08:27:37 pm
You two look good together. You will succeed!
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Cathyrollins
8/16/2018 09:51:42 am
They look so cute together.
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Kimberly Thomas
7/23/2017 10:37:36 pm
You are AMAZING! I am nineteen and my boyfriend and I are getting married next year and everyone keeps telling me we dont know what we are doing or you wont make it. All of the things you have heard I have as well. It is soo delightful to see how happy you are. Im very excited to move forward and become a wife as well. Stay strong!
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Macey
7/24/2017 09:27:29 am
couldnt be more proud of my best friend. love you always <3
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Jillian
7/24/2017 10:19:01 am
Thank you so much for this. I am 18 and got engaged one month ago today. We want to get married this coming May. I will only be 19 and a lot of people think we should wait. My dad wants us to wait until I graduate. It's been a hard road with lots of tears. But my fiancé and j are going on with the wedding in May. Thank you for your words and encouragement.
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Zachary CARPENTER
7/24/2017 11:10:23 am
I'm glad you're going for it. Your dad sounds like a piece of work. I bet your fiance is cute though.
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Jackie
7/25/2017 12:43:07 pm
Parents only want what's best for their kids
Molly
7/25/2017 06:39:19 pm
Just remember that this is your happiness, not anyone else's. If you and your fiance are happy, that's all that matters.
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Who says there's a right and wrong age to ever marry. You have to worry about you and your spouse and forget all of the. Jealous negative people. Marriage is tough and it's takes work. However when two people truly love each other nothing can ever break them apart. God bless you.
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Sam Schwartz
7/24/2017 11:16:52 am
Abbey, this is inspiring. Yes, I totally feel you on getting hate for loving young. The thing is, you are feeling this way for a reason. If Heavenly Father wasn't ready for you to marry, he wouldn't have put the pressure on your heart to do so. You have seemed out the approval of Him, and He has given it. Nothing else should matter, keep your head up girl! Love conquers all.
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Rebecca
7/24/2017 11:24:40 am
41 years, 60 days ago, I was a nineteen year old bride, marrying a 21 year old groom.
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Adrienne
7/24/2017 12:05:41 pm
I'm glad that you found love and happiness. Although this is a very nice story it fails to show the facts. 46% of divorces in the US right now claim that they married too young. If you study divorce and factors that influence it you will find studies from universities that show getting married before the age of 25 as one of the main influencers. Your brain isn't fully developed until you are 25. Studies also show that the amount of education you and your spouse have influence divorce as well as, religion, ethnicity, and child rearing beliefs. Of course there is always the exception to the rule and lots of couples stay together despite having these differences. I hope that your marriage works out and you never have to go through a divorce. As for my daughters they are learning these facts and I am teaching them so that they are aware. I have a daughter who is 20 and another who is 17. I can't wait for them to find love and hopefully marry their partner. So far they are choosing to wait until they are older and finish college.
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Shannon
7/25/2017 07:46:35 pm
46% of young marriages don't make it...
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Rachel
7/25/2017 11:38:27 pm
I appreciate what you've said! But I want to clarify 😊Not 46% of young people divorce. 46% of the people who divorce say they were too young. 54% of the people who divorce gave different reasons. Several studies show that approximately 70% of first time marriages succeed. 30% fail and of that 30% some say it was because they were too young. I believe my marriage of 22 years is successful because we married young and grew together. Everyone is different. It's important that we focus on the positive and support each other in the decisions we make, whether we marry young or wait.
Cindy
7/27/2017 10:11:18 am
He didn't say 46 percent of marriages failed....of those failed marriages surveyed, 46 percent said they were too young. Survey yourself and see how many people you know are divorced and re-married. Most people have been divorced. I married when I was 22 and him 23.,.38 years ago and still going strong. Number 1 problem in most marriages is money. Note most of the blogs declare the man in the longest lasting marriages joined the military. It is extremely hard to make a living at 19.
Micaela
7/25/2017 10:00:43 pm
My Grandma told me that my brain wasn't fully developed. I appreciated her concern (I got married at 21. We had dates since I was 17). I love the fact that a we chose to grow TOGETHER. We knew what we wanted, and we still do. We knew each other well so there weren't many surprises. I couldn't imagine life without my best friend. There is nothing wrong with waiting, but why wait if you found the one person spending the rest of your life with?
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Raye
7/26/2017 01:11:12 am
Please
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Miranda
7/26/2017 06:58:43 am
while statics are good and sometimes useful, I don't feel we should always base our decisions on them. I think, at least for me, statistics often cause fear if I look into them too much, and I don't want to live a life where I choose not to do things out of fear. For example, the statistics of dying in a car crash are pretty insane, yet I choose to get in my car and drive every day. It's more efficient for me to drive than to walk.
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Melanie
7/26/2017 09:44:35 am
I agree. Not to focus on the negative and not to say that those who marry young can't or won't last, but there is a factor that was over looked. People grow, people change. It's beyond not getting hangry or dealing with your spouse's snoring. It's about learning who you are as an adult and being okay to be that person with your partner and being okay with who your partner will become. I married my first boyfriend one month shy of my 20th birthday. I loved him, I really did and I said EVERYTHING that was written here. I never imagined that I would wake up almost 10 years later no longer the person I was when I married my husband. And we tried to be okay with the people we were becoming but the differences were too much. We officially divorced 11 years after we were married. Again, not to say that you can't make it work, but be prepared for growing pains - they're not easy to overcome.
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Jay
7/26/2017 10:50:02 pm
Always gotta be one Debbie downer in the group. I think I speak for everyone when I say shut up
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My husband was 20 and I was 19, we met in September and got married in December. This December (2017) we will be celebrating our 45th anniversary. Yes there are people that get divorce, in my opinion they expect a marriage to be all roses, it takes work to make a marriage work, it is a lot of give and take. I wasn't teased however I did hear things like "babies having babies" . And by the way I wasn't pregnant when we got married. So Abbie I pray that your marriage groes stronger each and every day and that we seek the Lord's word for every decision you make. May God bless your marriage.
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Meg
7/24/2017 12:39:26 pm
This year my husband and I will celebrate our 10th anniversary. We were married the winter after we graduated highschool. Both 19 and crazy in love. We had no idea exactly what we were getting into. We increased our challenging of the odds by coming from divorced parents (both of us), having a military spouse, and we didn't live together for 3 years 😳. I finished college while he was stationed in Hawaii. There wasn't a statistic that was in our favor but we didn't care. I've never once looked back and thought we should have waited. I love my husband more with each day. We grew together through our 20s and we have learned so much as a team. He is my best friend. We always say that no matter how rough life gets (and it gets rough) that we are in this forever. I wish you and your husband the best! Just remember that marriage is work but it's also so much fun!
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Erica
7/24/2017 07:17:41 pm
It is wonderful maturing and growing old together. My husband and I were 20 year old college students when we married, lived in the dorms ( I was a dorm manager), and completed our degrees. When we left dorm life we had a bed, rocking chair, two lamps, a bookshelf and great memories. Next month we celebrate thirty years of marriage, have raised three boys and are completely debt free homeowners with an extremely full life in ministry. Wouldn't change any of it including the lean years and difficulties which have matured us with grace and wisdom.
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Natalie
7/24/2017 07:51:25 pm
I am so happy there are people who are fighting against societal pressures to put off marriage. My husband and I were 21 when we got married a year ago. It has been the best and most informative year of my life and although I know we will go through struggles we have our faith and our family who will support us and who have gone through their own messes and come out better together for them. Hoping your marriage is full of love, trust, adventures and longevity! I just wish there were more young married couples around to do life together with!
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Carley
7/27/2017 12:54:38 am
It's not societal pressures, it's statistics.
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Shelly
7/24/2017 07:59:21 pm
Best wishes to you both. I was 19 when my husband and I got married. We will be celebrating our 31st anniversary next week. As you already know, you will face trials and you will struggle. Sometimes you will feel blindsided by life, but those are the times that will make you stronger. Marriage is work, but if you remember that your spouse is your partner, not the enemy, you'll make it through. God bless.
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Adora Nwankwo
7/24/2017 08:00:21 pm
Abbey! I hope all is well. This was a great read. I completely agree people are too quick to judge and never quick to love and listen. I wishing you the best and praying for a marriage full of good health, happiness and and an unwavering love. Please continue to bless us with you insights and may God continue to use you as a vessel for His word.
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Ashlie B. (another 19 year old bride)
7/24/2017 08:48:46 pm
Abbey!
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Michelle
7/26/2017 07:25:34 am
Amen...I hate the phrase "in love". No I am not consistently in love with my spouse and yes the honeymoon phase does subside but then shows up again randomly after time over and over. Yes marriage is hard, but it is hard at any stage in life..people need to stop regarding marriage as just a feeling and a test if you can truly make it or not. Keep fighting for your marriage!! I was married at 21 and just celebrated our 22nd anniversary!!
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Brittany
7/26/2017 08:14:25 am
Your story touched my heart. You are totally right on the marriage part don't be scary to marry ur best friend and the one u had spark with.
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Jessica Swendsen
7/24/2017 09:11:24 pm
Hi! You don't know me, but I knew your fiance as a missionary in Littleton, CO. I was also a 19 year old bride, and only 19 for two weeks when we were married!! Had it been up to me I would have been 18, but my Dad begged me to hold off a couple months. So here we are.
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JH
7/26/2017 11:43:37 am
Here's the thing though, Laura.. love doesn't always conquer all. Marriage takes so much more than just love. Hard work, dedication, faithfulness, just to name a few. Yes, love is a powerful thing, but you are not always going to feel "in love" with your husband. Sometimes he is going to hurt you, or make you angry, or just plain turn you off. He's only human just like you. However, if you were unable to stay faithful to him more than was before the marriage has even begun I think that means you are not ready for that big of a commitment. Waiting a few more years will not hurt anything.
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JH
7/26/2017 12:00:37 pm
I did not mean to reply to this feed, my bad.
Laura
7/24/2017 09:19:05 pm
Question , what if I had an affair while I was engaged let's say two times. He is in the Marines and I'm only 17 but we're gonna get married this September. I have asked God for forgiveness and I love my Fiancé and still plan on Marring him.Do you think we will okay. I want everyone to understand that I love him and I will NEVER do it again. I believe that we will make it cause LOVE CONQUERS ALL!
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Emily Abigail Stein
7/25/2017 09:07:21 am
Laura, the repentance of your heart, your acceptance of God's forgiveness, and a difficult but necessary decision you make with your future husband to persevere are what you need to be okay. Not man's approval or advice. Start rebuilding the love and trust in your relationship. Trust God to heal you. Walk through this challenge with your man and never ever give up. You're right- Love does conquer all. You have my love and prayers. ~Emily Abigail Stein (Another 19 year old bride)
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Why?
7/25/2017 02:41:21 pm
I'm a Marine Wife. What you did is not acceptable... You can throw a fish and watch it break but saying sorry won't fix it. At 17 you are still so immature (you cheated not once but twice...). I think you need to think long and hard about you're getting into. As a Marine wife there ARE HIGH expectations of us and standards. While they are away it is our job to maintain the home front. The LAST thing he needs to worry about is different you're under another man.
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M C
7/25/2017 05:17:57 pm
Dear sweet girl-
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JH
7/26/2017 12:03:15 pm
Here's the thing though, Laura.. love doesn't always conquer all. Marriage takes so much more than just love. Hard work, dedication, faithfulness, just to name a few. Yes, love is a powerful thing, but you are not always going to feel "in love" with your husband. Sometimes he is going to hurt you, or make you angry, or just plain turn you off. He's only human just like you. However, if you were unable to stay faithful to him more than once before the marriage has even begun I think that means you are not ready for that big of a commitment. Waiting a few more years will not hurt anything, but getting married right now (when you're not ready) could be a HUGE mistake. I know you say you love him, but if you can't keep yourself for sleeping with other guys... I'm not sure you love him enough to be his wife.
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Malon
7/26/2017 05:59:31 pm
Laura before you make a decision one way or another YOU HAVE TO TELL YOUR FIANCE WHAT YOU DID. Trust in him and in God and whatever happens will happen. You cannot begin a marriage on a lie, it will never last.
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Rose
8/12/2017 04:49:04 pm
Laura,
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Kathy Ketchum
7/24/2017 09:53:18 pm
Abbey you are wise beyond your years.I do not know you but you are a good example for our younger generation .I am breathless and taken away .God be with the two of you and butterflies will never go away .Kathy Ketchum as I said I am breathless.
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Wanda
7/24/2017 10:14:48 pm
You may be young in age but you are awesome. You know more about love and marriage then 85 percent of the people does. And you made a beautiful bride. I know your family is very proud of you.
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Leslie
7/25/2017 05:48:20 am
I was 19 and my husband was 20 when we got married. 23 years later, we are still happily married. Our children are 21 & 16 and my daughter always tells me mom, I think I am the only person at school that doesn't have divorced parents. Getting married young sometimes is wonderful if you know in your heart you are marrying your soulmate. Don't listen to what everyone else tells you, follow your heart.
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Beau
7/25/2017 05:55:51 am
In p1986, eighteen I married the love of my life. No one thought it would work. My parents feared I wouldn't go ish college. We didn't have enough money we didn't know everything, but we had true love. We married in 1986 and moved away so I could go to school, which I did not finish until years later with all of his support earned a master's degree as well. He was my rock, he died suddenly in 2010. Twenty-four years married and 2 years dating. I'm so glad I married him at 18 I wouldn't have wanted to miss a minute more with him. I wish we had the next 56 or so to grow older together. Don't take one day together for granted
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Tori k
7/25/2017 06:08:13 am
I got married right before my 21 birthday this year and I proud to be married to my soul mate . We have a son that will be two in December. Sre margie start off werid bc three days after we got married i end up in th hospital because my legs went numb and I had a fever of 104.5 almost high enough to be in a coma . I was in the hospital for two days and they said I was lucky I can go home so I pack are bags to go on are hunnymoon so I got that done waited to leave that night to go to ocean city Maryland for 3 days and we got back at 3.30 am this morning. Margie isn't for the birds it not easy . We aurge but we work it out. We are only a year apart
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Debby
7/25/2017 07:22:32 am
We got married a week after I turned 18..he was 22..Everyone whispered " she's pregnant" (carrying that child for 6 years before I had him ...LOL..) My husband and I just celebrated our 38th Anniversary with our son..daughter inlaw and 2 grandchildren. I love him more now than when we married..
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Kandice
7/25/2017 07:49:52 am
We were married at 18... 15 years later we have 4 beautiful girls and are still happy and strong!!!! It's not a matter age but a matter of loving someone enough to work for it!
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Debbie Smith
7/25/2017 08:25:06 am
I got married when I was 16 my parents approved we were both Christians and loved the Lord still do! My parents were divorced and I had grown up young I had 4 younger siblings that I helped take care of and everyone said the same thing to use but we knew in our hearts that we could last through the good times and the bad now this November 19 we will be married 45 years I bet they are starting to get worried LoL
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7/25/2017 08:35:54 am
Here's the thing. I wasn't married till I was 26 but we only knew each other for 10 months when we got engaged and we only had a 4 month long engagement. My coworkers thought I was a little nuts. Yeah they were happy for me but they thought it was really fast. We've grown up in a church where we defy the social norms on a daily basis. All that matters is that you know in your heart and through the spirit that you've made the right decision. That confirmation will help you through the ups and downs of marriage. And also, the honeymoon stage never has to leave! We fight to keep it alive and we never want to lose it. That doesn't mean it is all rainbows and butterflies but my sister taught me after she had been married 5-6 years that the honeymoon stage doesn't ever have to go away!
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Lena
7/26/2017 11:36:44 am
I wasn't married until I was 25, my husband is 20, but we were forced on a blind date one day and that was what we needed. We dated for a little over 9 months and had a 5 month engagement. This is our first year of marriage and by the time 8 months hits, we still wont have lived together so I look forward to that new phase. Its a new time to grow with each other. The way I see it, marriage is not 50/50. Its 100/100. You can't expect your spouse to give their all when you are not willing to do so. You learn together how to do things in ways that work best for you two personally. I wish you all the luck and hope in the world and may you always love each other.
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Sandy
7/25/2017 09:05:09 am
I married my husband at 18, he was 20 and everyone said the same thing. People would ask my mom why she was letting me get married. First she told them, she is 18 and I couldn't stop her if I wanted to. Second (jokingly) she said, if it doesn't work, at least she will still be young when they divorce. (She never believed that would happen though.) In September, we will be married for 28 years. I am in love with my husband more now than I have ever been. There has been hardships, but remember to work them through together. I feel that many young people think that marriage is disposable. It is not. It's not hard. Do things together. Find something you both enjoy and make sure you include your children in everything you do. Even if it is outside planting flowers or having a water fight. They will see the love you have for each other. That will start building the foundation for their future marriage. Two pieces of advise, never go to bed angry (always kiss each other goodnight, and before each other walks out the door) and when you have children, if they are not invited to the party, then don't go. If you children are not welcome, neither are you. Just remember as a singer put it, the best keeps getting better all the time.
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Loren
7/25/2017 09:08:28 am
I definitely needed this! Was sooo amazing!! So happy for you two!
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Dear One,
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Lala
7/25/2017 10:40:43 am
Your not the first one to get married at 19 😂. Right after having my son 4 years ago me and my husband got married.
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Sara Tims
7/25/2017 11:20:02 am
One of the few that got it figured out. You are wise beyond your years I wish you a long and happy marriage.
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Candida
7/25/2017 11:36:10 am
Look great in your dress and believe me they yryed to down rate me to for dating the guy i am with now and wer'e happy to be almost mom and dad now
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Diane
7/25/2017 12:06:12 pm
Sometimes, they want you to wait because they know something about that person that they want you to find out on your own without them having to tell you, i.e. addictions, unfaithfulness, lies, etc. They have not have exact proof but they see the "signs" because they finally wised up when it was too late to see the signs. They wished they had listened to everyone else. Maybe the just saw you heart broken out of a relationship(you thought was the best) 3 months before moving directly into this better than anything relationship AND as your friends they are afraid to tell you this. Maybe they've heard you say... if I'm not married or engaged before I graduate college I'll never get married. Which is not always true! Stop pressuring yourself to get married and relax and wait for the man that God is sending your way. Focus on God and your man will find you when he is so Focused on God he bumps into you.
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Doris
7/26/2017 11:16:35 am
I agree. When someone finds love at a young age, we all hope it matures to a deep love. The decision to marry should not be an emotional one but one made with careful thought of how you blend as a couple. Marriage is life altering. Discuss how you plan to go on in your futures together with some idea of the where, when, & how. Discuss careers, finances, children, where you hope to go in life, etc. Falling in love can be thrilling but a marriage needs commitment and a foundation.
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In January I will celebrate my 29th wedding anniversary. I was just two months past my 20th birthday when we married; he turned 21 three days before we said our vows.
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Carrie
7/25/2017 12:20:58 pm
I met my husband when I was 14 he was 26, love is not stupid we got married when I was 16 he was 27 we have had our ups n downs, but we are still together 26 years later his family always said it never last.. Do what you feel is best for you!
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Sarah Tatum
7/25/2017 12:31:42 pm
Feel ya. I got married when I will nineteen too but the next day was my twentieth birthday. People thought the way about me and Brandon, my husband. Put God first, spouse, and others.
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Cynthia
7/25/2017 01:21:45 pm
Take some encouragement. I heard a lot of it too. I was 18 and my husband 19 when we got married. There have for sure been some rough times, but there have been way more good times. We just celebrated 9 years of marriage this last May and we now have 3 beautiful children. No one even remembers all those negative things they said, all they see is a husband and wife who make each other better and are very much in love. My life didn't end with marriage, it began.
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Gabrielle Wagner
7/25/2017 02:00:23 pm
My husband and I got married at 19. We had only known each other for a short while and didn't do the big ceremony, but we are so incredibly happy. Congratulations on standing your ground. It's hard when people don't back you up, but with an open and realistic mind y'all will go far. I wish you guys the best!
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Arlene
7/25/2017 02:03:53 pm
I too was a 19 year old bride, we celebrated 42 years on July 18. It is not all wine and roses, that would be boring. I tell people we have had triumphs and tragedies, however, we had them together. It was not he or me, but us. Do I get mad at him, oh hello yes, do I love him, more than I can imagine. You two must one heart and support each other and you will have a great adventure together!
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Sonya
7/25/2017 02:04:05 pm
Married at 18, 35 years ago. .I WAS TOOOOO YOUNG. ..and some FAMILY members were cruel...but I thank God for my husband and family! You can do this. ..God's got us!
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Shirley
7/25/2017 02:04:07 pm
I became engaged at 19, married at 21, only because my husband had to spend 18 months overseas. Had he not been overseas, we would have married at 19. 31 years later, we are still married and still in love. We chose to grow up together instead of doing it separately. We both still feel we made the right choice.
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Terri
7/25/2017 02:29:23 pm
I was 19 when I got married. I heard all pf the same things shes pregnant, it wont last blah blah blah.... Well we did not have a baby until 3 years into our marriage and we have been married now for going on 12 years this November. I actually love him more now then I ever have. If i could go back I would not change a thing. Best of luck to you and you will learn that the only opinions that matter are you and your soon to be husband.
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Kayla
7/25/2017 02:30:13 pm
I got married a week and day after I graduated high school. I was 18 and my husband 20. We will celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary next year and couldn't be happier. We have an 8 year old daughter and bought our first house 7 years ago. We got married without any jobs and any place to live. We struggled, but we struggled together. We have been through finicaial troubles, car troubles, fights, and everybody looking at us like we were crazy. I graduated nursing school a year and half ago and our family is now financially stable, with a brand new car and our daughter is enrolled in a great school and gymnastics. I whole heartedly believe none of this would have possible on my own and I'm so glad I had the support of my husband through it all. Don't let anyone take that feeling you have away. Love can conquer anything and the struggles you will face in life are much more manageable with a partner by your side. Congratulations on your wedding and I wish you a lifetime of happiness!
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Kassi
7/25/2017 02:36:36 pm
I just got married at 18 right out of high school on June 1st this year and I got the same thing
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Sabrina Hennen
7/25/2017 02:48:35 pm
I too chose to get married young, I was 17. I certainly was not pregnant nor was sex part of it. I chose it because it was right for me and I WAS ready. We have 7 kids and married 22 years. The best and hardest years of my life. I would not change a thing and we have had loads of hard times mixed will endless happy times. You seem to already be well beyond your years and ready. Ignore the nay sayers they will always be there. Surround yourself with those who love and support you. Show them all you got this by living the words you expressed in your story. Best off luck to you both!!
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Lisa
7/25/2017 02:53:54 pm
Abbey - My husband and I, married for 25 years this September, have loved each other since we were 13 years of age. We did date other people, even seriously in college. The one thing which never changed was that I need his hugs, his friendship, his humor, his partnership and I could never imagine life without him. Has it been easy - gosh no. We lost a child and our finances were sorely tested with a huge labor strike, and with our decision for me to stay home with our daughters, but through it all we leaned on each other - LOVED each other through it. Our Faith helped us, as did the old fashioned idea that marriage better be forever. If you give yourselves an out, you will be tempted to take it. Be brave - hold on to each other and laugh and love!! I wish you a lifetime of happiness!
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Zondra
7/25/2017 02:54:50 pm
I married my husband when I was 19 and he was 20. I just knew he was the one! Of course we heard the pregnancy rumors and my mom was asked when her grand baby was due! Haha, we surprised them all! After 14 years of marriage we had our son. Longest pregnancy ever! We celebrated 31 years of marriage this past May. Best of luck to you all!
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Jerrica
7/25/2017 03:32:15 pm
I was/am a 19 year old bride! It has been 6 months today. Have been together 4 years next January and I couldn't dream of a life without my husband.
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Brianna
7/25/2017 03:32:22 pm
This is absolutely amazing and inspiring! I am 19 (pregnant though) And my boyfriend is 23 and before I got pregnant he told his best friend (And Iater) that he wants to marry me and that he had been thinking about it for a long time. Youre right, being young and in love isn't stupid or pointless, it's LOVE regardless of how old you are, young our old. It's everything it's supposed to be. It's not easy and it isn't supposed to be. There are MANY ups and downs like you said but if you can get through them with your love it just makes you stronger and shows you that it's real. I would love to marry him right now bc I know in My heart that he's everything I want and need, it doesn't matter what anyone else says. What matters is what you two want. And I may not know you but I am happy for you ❤
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Brianna
7/25/2017 03:34:09 pm
We've been together for almost 3 years.
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Laura
7/25/2017 03:34:40 pm
I got married at the age 19 an have been married over 20 yrs. An we have had are ups an downs he has my back an I have his. An still very happy with my husband.
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April
7/25/2017 04:07:46 pm
I turned 18 in May, graduated high school in May, and got married to love of my life in June. That was 20 years ago, we have 2 children and we are still together and still in love love with each other. If you two love one another don't worry about what others may say. If they truly knew what love is they wouldn't doubt yours .
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Christa
7/25/2017 04:26:09 pm
Married happily for 23 years... I got married 5 months after I turned 20. Wouldn't change a thing. 2 sweet boys and my high school sweet heart and happy as ever! I got my diamond my senior year of high school and oh the whispers... especially the teachers. Look at me now Mrs. Schelke😛 (she has changed her name back to her maiden name, looks like someone may have gotten a divorce, just saying)
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Faith
7/25/2017 05:13:42 pm
I got married when I was 18 and my husband was 20 and I so do not regret it at all. Yesterday was a year and a half and I love it! We still have our ups and downs but it's not are hardest year cause I just get closer to my best friend and God. Every person is going to look different and have kids at different times and get married at different times. So happy for you too!
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Kathy Jordan
7/25/2017 05:26:22 pm
Congrats and keep the light and love going keep God first and all will be fine. I married my true love and husband of 33 years now when I was 17 and he 18 and yes we had many "family" bets on when the baby would be born how long it would last etc. well they were quit surprised when my first child was not born for 2 years and since I'm not an elephant that's proof I wasn't pregnant at the time we married and now all these years later we're still very much in love. And right you are that there will be rocky times but like I said pray together and stay together. God bless y'all ❤️❤️
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Latifah poole
7/25/2017 05:37:48 pm
My boyfriend great grandmother and great grandfather got married at 17 and 18 they even had to travel to another state in order to get married legally before he went into service and have been married for 63years going on 64 don't listen to them but your ❤️
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Christine
7/25/2017 06:03:06 pm
I was married at a young age and was married for 12 years and now divorced and engaged to someone quite younger than myself . We've not been together long but we know it's right !! He's getting ready to join the Army and I've been in my career for almost 17 ½ years now . I've got people telling me we're moving way to fast and it's not gonna work but we're determined to prove everyone wrong ...... My momma was 14 and my daddy was 18 when they got married and was married for just shy of 48 years before he suddenly passed away 14 years ago ..... They made it work and I learned a lot of valuable lessons from them and will be doing that this time so I can say I made it with my best friend !! I wish y'all the best and hope y'all have many years of wedded bliss !!
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Brandy
7/25/2017 06:26:10 pm
You both are cute ❤️ I love young love and I know what that is because I was in that boat 1 year ago! I got married last august and I was 18 then a couple months later, I turned 19, people talked but we were and are happy and we don't care what people say! We've been together 3 years and next month will be a year that we've been married! I'm almost 20 and I couldn't be happier so who cares what people say💙 We all deserve happiness! Hope your live is filled with all the love and happiness in the world 🐵
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Staci
7/25/2017 06:35:14 pm
My mother my sister and myself all married at 19. Over 100 years now between all of us. Take heart! Your not the only one that faced this
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Vickie Wright
7/25/2017 06:56:55 pm
I stumbled across this on my Facebook! Wow how this is so true! I myself is 19 and just got married! I have head many of the same comments and I'm so thankful I stood my ground and did not listen! Marriage is what I thought it would be an adventure!
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Georgevontoman
7/25/2017 07:16:00 pm
My wife felt this way too. And she was 18. Now 10/27/2017 will be our 5th anniversary. So fuck what people say. You do you:). Do whatever makes you happy. They don't pay you, they dont do what your husband does for you.. and that all that matters. Good luck
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Olyvia Romine
7/25/2017 07:17:00 pm
I just got married April 7th, 2017. This post made me so happy! My husband is in the Air Force and everyone said oh it's because he's in the military. No. We would have done it just as soon if he wasn't! I'm happy there are people out there that can find love young. I'm happy I get to settle down and start my life with the love of my life!
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Alexis Raymond
7/25/2017 07:18:11 pm
Abbey thank you! I am eighteen.. now. Married on June 17th when I was still seventeen. Thank you for sharing your story and challenging young brides like us to know who's opinion really matters.
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Kristy
7/25/2017 07:34:41 pm
I married at 19 to the love of my life we have 8 wonderful children, beautiful home, and 24 years of marriage I couldn't be happier he was my night in shining armor
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Christie Nations
7/25/2017 07:39:31 pm
I was 21 and he was 18 when we married. We had started dating in February, married in July (Yes of the same year!) , and as of this past Sunday have been married 24 Yes. We have 3 sons age 14, 18, and 23. I heard all of the same things that were listed but sometimes you just know that he's the one. It's not always been a bed of roses but you take the good with the bad and you make it work. God is at the head of our marriage and with that faith he always brings you through. Good luck with your marriage and to neck with what others are saying. It's y'alls happiness that matters!!
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James
7/25/2017 07:42:44 pm
While everyone else is congratulating you, I feel the need to bring you down to earth. Getting married young is often a bad idea. It's not because young people are imature, it's because you're not done growing as a person. Who you are now is not who you're going to be in the next 5 years. And who you are in 5 years isn't going to be who you are in 10 years. The same goes for the other person. So often times as each of you grow, you grow in opposite directions. You become shaped by your experiences, and become 2 different people than before, and those 2 new people are not always compatible as before. Your ideas change, your goals change, and your lives change. It's not a bad thing, but now you find yourself with a person that you don't share the same direction with. And that is the reason most young marriages fail.
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Alexis
7/25/2017 08:14:52 pm
James. If you are married young you will go through all those changing periods together, meaning you will be molded together. Secondly marriage working is not all about compatability. Love is a choice not a feeling. You have to wake up every day and choose your spouse and to love them. When you get married you say some kind of vows during the ceremony, most involve things about through the good and bad. All of these different stages of life are molding and changing, yes, but I would much rather go through them with the person that I love than alone. I get where you are coming from, and know allot of people with similar beliefs, but I must respectfully disagree.
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Angel
7/25/2017 08:59:02 pm
I call crap. I am not marrying someone I am not compatable with. I'm not just going to marry anyone.
OntheFence
7/25/2017 09:30:37 pm
James was trying to be practical but just went about it the wrong way. Sometimes people are cruel but sometimes they're also well meaning. Just because a friend or family member thinks you're too young doesn't mean they're "haters". Most parents really do just want what's best for you or don't want to see you get hurt.
James
7/25/2017 10:00:20 pm
I got married right after my 20th birthday to someone I only knew for a couple months. That was almost 8 years ago. I'm a different person than I was then, and it doesn't always work. You can call crap, but I've lived it. I have more friends divorced and/or on their second marriages than I have that are still together with the person they were with when I first met them. And there are so many of them with step children. Statistics don't lie. This article is written prematurley. Update this article in 5 years, and we'll see if the author still believes everything they wrote. As for the ones with 30+ years together, keep in mind, you're not part of her generation, I am. I can't say the values are the same. This is the "want now" impulsive generation, and that mentality bleeds through to relationships. I'm not sayig it won't work for them, but the odds are against it.
Holly
7/25/2017 07:48:14 pm
I knew the first time I met my husband that he was the one, and later found out that he thought the same. We met in February of 1991, were married October 1991. I was 19, he was 28. It's 25 years later, 2 boys, and 5 dogs, and we are still in love!
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Brittany
7/25/2017 07:49:20 pm
I my self have a lot in common. I married at the age of 19. I have been married now for a year. I went thru a lot of hearing people try an put me down bc of marring young.
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7/25/2017 08:15:54 pm
I was a nineteen year old bride. And now as of May 21st I am 40 years into my marriage!!! I can truthfully say it is NOT always a bed of roses and it is a lot of work!!! But, I would not change a thing!! Age is not what makes you ready!! If that was the case why are 30 year old brides getting divorced later down the road?!! They were older but had no more experience than you do at marriage. You enter marriage on a level playing field because no matter how old you are you never have experience at marriage until you are married!!! I applaud you for being mature to take the step for marriage!!! Congratulations and may you have many years together!! Many blessings to you!!
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Jenny
7/25/2017 08:21:05 pm
My parents got married at 19 and will be celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary this December! They
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Diana
7/25/2017 08:35:21 pm
I was 19 when I got married. I heard the same whispers. 20 years later and a lot of traveling rocky roads I am still deeply in love. There is a richness to our relationship that comes from growing together.
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Sonya
7/25/2017 08:44:37 pm
Marriage is work, and love and commitment are decisions that are made sometimes daily! Both of us were 20 years old when we got married almost 28 years ago. It hasn't always been easy, but it is doable!
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Alexis
7/25/2017 08:46:55 pm
My fiancé is 21 and I'm 19 and we plan to marry in no more than 2 years and this just settled every worry I had with my family not thinking I am ready for this thank you so much
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I just wanted to say I love this. Being 19 and in love has been slightly difficult. I get told constantly by my own family and friends about how it isn't love and how I don't really love my boyfriend just because of my age. I'm 19 and in love with my best friend of 19 years. We've been together (as a couple) 7 months ago. I want to marry him and have kids with him and I but I'm not ready to marry him, and he isn't ready to marry me yet. We want to grow up a little bit first and experience life and finish as much school as possible. We love each other enough to know we don't want to put a ring on it yet. Apparently because we are 19, young, and more career focused, we aren't really in love, and just "really close friends" (as my dad would put it).
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Nicole Gooch
7/25/2017 09:07:16 pm
Hello my name is Nicole I married my husband when I was 19 he was 22 I'm 21 now and he is 24 I love my husband now today more then I ever thought possible we will be married 2 years in august of this year it's not always easy but nothing in life is but it's worth fighting for in my experience of being a wife at 19 people do tend to talk and be against you but I wasn't pregnant I wasn't just in it for sex I love my husband that's why I married him we still don't have kids but we are getting ready to work on that very soon I'm glad I chose to marry at a young age because now is the best time for women to start a family is when they are in their 20s cause it's easier on their bodies then if they wait till they are in their 30s that's a scientific fact and on top of getting ready to start a family I am continuing my education I am currently going back to school to get my GED i am almost finished and then I'm going to college to be a large animal veterinarian and none of that would be possible without the support of my husband you can't let people think well ur a wife u can't have a career and a Family cause that's not true I'm proof that you can have a family and a career and I wouldn't have it any other way as women people tend to look at us a week and just as house wives and sometimes I do feel like that's all I am but then I remember I'm the only person who can define me I am strong independent and way more then a house wife and nobody can tell me differently there is still so much I want to achieve in life and just cause I'm married don't mean I can't do those things it just means I'll have someone beside me the whole step of the way supporting me and loving me through the good times and the bad and that's what marriage is it's being yourself but with someone else and I think god for letting me find my soul mate so early in life looking back now I realize just how lost I was without him he is my whole world so encourage all young brides who think about giving up to just hang in there keep god in the center of your marriage and love each other unconditionally no matter what life throws at you
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Angelisa Hassan
7/25/2017 09:15:03 pm
Goodness grief. You really have nothing to complain about. I hate it when people judge other peoples life choices and outside the Mormon faith it isn't very common for people to get married before 23. Before 26 even but it's common in the Mormon faith. It's not a surprise you got married . You seem like you have a good personality, you are a beautiful girl and lets be honest most guys in this age group see looks first. I'm being honest. That is why you found a spouse at 19. Your personality and looks. People who look like me had no chance at getting married before they turn 25. I'm 24 and I already feel like an old maid in this religion and I don't even have my bachelors yet and I'm starting to feel like a old maid at 24. It's ridiculous. I dont know what it will feel like if I'm single at 30. My gosh.
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Tammy roberson
7/25/2017 09:18:55 pm
I was married at 19 and he is 10 yrs older but February will be 20 yrs it's alot of work no matter what age you are but it's worth it. Stay strong
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Makaela Miller
7/25/2017 09:29:42 pm
I got married when I was 18 and my husband was 17. People said we wouldnt make it or it wouldnt last. People actually made bets on how long it would last. We have almost been married for 10 years now and have 4 kids. We couldn't be happier or more in love. Dont let people get to you they're just jealous.
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Austin
7/26/2017 12:09:31 am
Do you want me to create a Tinder account so I can link you his profile?
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Pam
7/25/2017 09:31:56 pm
I was 19 when I married. I had gone through a cancelled wedding (3 days prior to it) when I was only 17 and it is the best thing to ever happen to me. I started dating my future husband about 10 months later and 2 months to the day after our first date he proposed. He did this even after my father told him "Go slow, she's been hurt". When he proposed I was all set to say NO, but yes came out of my mouth! We had an hour motorcycle ride to get home after that and I had it all planned how I would tell him I was sorry, I hadn't meant to say yes...that I couldn't marry him. Shortly before we got home it hit me! My brain was telling me to say no, but my heart had told me to say yes. I listened to my heart. Less than 6 months later we were married. That was 40 years ago! We now have 3 children and 4 grandsons. Your age is just a number and people who insult you are just ignorant. A marriage is what you make of it and it's HARD WORK. Every day you have to work at it. And remember that you just aren't spouses but you are friends. It's imperative that you like each other as well as love each other. And when things get tough, and they will, that you work on your relationship. In this day and age of everything being disposable, marriage has become disposable too.
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Isabella Eppens
7/25/2017 09:35:46 pm
My grandma married at not-for-profit 16. No one thought it would last. She didn't know how to cook more than a few things, and Grandpa was used to his mother's cooking. No one thought they would make it. (Except my great-grandma of course ;)) Well, guess what?! They made it. Together they had 12 kids, and stayed together until the day my Grandpa died in 2002. My grandma still doesn't have plans of re-marrying. That just proves that when there is love and determination, it can make it.
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MrsRene
7/25/2017 10:08:25 pm
I'm a 17 yr old bride. I know what you mean.
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I married my high school sweetheart the day before I turned 19. Sadly he was killed 4 years later in an automobile accident and I am so grateful to have had that time with him. We had a 3 year old daughter(no I wasn't pregnant when we got married). So follow your heart and make memories.
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Daniel
7/25/2017 10:23:12 pm
I married a 19 year old (at 23 years old myself) and it’s been the best. My sister married a month after at 19 years old. Better yet, my mother married my father at 19 and they have been the greatest example of a happy and meaningful marriage I could ever ask for!
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Destin
7/25/2017 10:25:11 pm
You're smart enough to know what you're doing. I believe enough for every last person who doesn't that you wouldn't be doing this if it wasn't right for you. Have yourself an incredible wedding, and have yourselves two long, happy lives together. I'll be cheering you on.
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Hetty
7/25/2017 10:33:02 pm
I was a 20 year old bride marrying my love who was 19. We have now been married for 13 years. Keep working on your love and your marriage will last. I'm so excited for the many years of joy and learning you will have together!
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Hailey
7/25/2017 10:34:26 pm
I loved how you put this Abbey! Great writing and great blog too.
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Vicky
7/25/2017 11:09:28 pm
Your post was very sweet. Being married young isn't the only reason marriage fails. Many factors are involved to keep a marriage healthy and strong. It sounds like you have your eyes wide open and are ready to make the full commitment. I was married young, barely 19. It didn't work, but there were many reasons why. It wasn't just because I was young. Granted, I probably could have seen warning signs clearer if I was a bit more mature. However, my age wasn't the only thing that was the downfall of the marriage. It ended fairly quick. I remarried what some would consider young too, 23. We've had ups and downs and 14 years and a beautiful daughter later, I know this is exactly where I will be. We both know we can trust each other through thick and thin, no matter what. It's a wonderful feeling. When you know, you know. And I truly did with my true love. It's a feeling like no other.
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Ammber
7/25/2017 11:29:25 pm
I was 18 and my husband was 19 when we got married. Everyone told us the same things. They said we were too young to know what love truly was. We are coming up on our 12 year wedding anniversary in a little over a month. We have 4 beautiful children together. It has been good and bad, but we have worked through everything that has come our way. We don't let anything keep us down. We have grown together and never given up. It doesn't matter how old you are when you marry someone. What matters is if you are willing to put the time, effort, and commitment into your marriage to make it work. We have always told each other that divorce is not any option. We are in this until death do us part!
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Gabbi
7/25/2017 11:46:25 pm
I'm 20 and just got engaged two months ago. I've known my fiancé for 7 years and he proposed on our one year anniversary. We are to be wed in November of next year and I am so very excited. He's been my best friend for those 7 years and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him. Your story helped me so much because I feel like my mother isn't excited for me... She says that I could be a completely different person in four years when I finish school (she wants me to wait until then) but she doesn't understand how much it hurts to see her not as excited as I always imagined her to be when the time came... Thanks for sharing your story. 💜
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Julia
7/25/2017 11:49:07 pm
This was exactly what I needed to hear right now. My boyfriend (19) and I (18) have talked about getting engaged in the next couple years but have been putting it off because of what people will think. He's in the Marines and we know we want to spend our life together. The only way we could see each other would be if I visit him but hotels are expensive and he can't get a house. We love each other very much and this has given me new hope that we can get married like we want and not have to wait five years. Thank you.
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Bryanna Duenez
7/26/2017 12:12:59 am
Perfectly said. I loved reading every word of this blog post! Completely 100% what I went through as well, as still do, even after being married for a year.
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Dawn
7/26/2017 03:40:06 am
Congratulations, Good Luck reach for the star,dream like a star ,be the stars. May you have many years of love,luck and happiness
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Lori Wilder
7/26/2017 04:07:49 am
Abby great article and I too was a young bride. Celebrating 28 years of marriage this year. I know you and Colin will have a strong marriage because you know marriage takes work, commitment, and Love. It doesn't matter how old you are marriage is still one of the biggest changes in your life just as you said. Prayers and blessing to you and Colin..
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Mikayla
7/26/2017 04:11:06 am
I got married at nineteen, and part of our vows were that we wouldn't make divorce an option, because when it's an option, you stop working at your marriage, you always see it as a way out and it effects every part of your marriage. If I had a dollar for every time an older couple told me I didn't know what I was talking about, I would be a stay at home wife by now 😂. Three years and counting!
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Tracie
7/26/2017 04:13:11 am
I was 19 when I got married. I still remember how that all encompassing love feels because I still feel it. We were simply ready to begin a life with one another. That was 30 years ago. My husband and I have grown and changed through the years together. We have had extremely hard times and we have had the most wonderful of good times. We have two grown daughters who look to us for an example of what a marriage looks like. It's work. It's change and compromise. Marriage to your soul mate, no matter if you're 'only 19', gives you the person who helps you through this life. Bless you and your husband. I wish you a long, happy life together.
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Kennzie
7/26/2017 04:27:53 am
Im 19 so is my fiance... We are getting married october 21st... Im so excited because my family fully accepts it because im happier now then iv ever been... My future husband was my best friend for 4 years and we took a leap of faith.... Now as i sit here waiting walk and slowly putting things together... I realise all the people outside my family talking crap... Dont matter this is who i want till i die... And this man will be the one it happens with.... Thank you so much for this post, it helped so much.
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7/26/2017 04:28:29 am
I married my husband at 19! I know all these feelings all too welll! But you are so right! We are celebrating 10 years of marriage this year! While getting married young was by no means the easy choice it was the absolute best decision o ever made.
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Lori
7/26/2017 04:40:33 am
I was 17 when we got engaged. Married at 18 and he was 20. We have been married for 33 years. I finished up an Associates degree. then After our first born was in Kindergarten I went back for a Bachelors in education. 12 years and two more kids I have my degree, and have been teaching for 14 years. You can do do. You need God first and a LOT of Grit!
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Melissa Samples
7/26/2017 04:41:18 am
I was married at 19. I had many people including my mom tell me I was to young. 28 years later we are still going strong ! Thank you for sharing your story ! I know there are many people out there that can relate to your story and just need encouragement !
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Cassandra
7/26/2017 05:40:44 am
Lovely story! Don't you worry about those naysayers. I was just shy of 19 when I got married to my best friend, and we had been together since I was 14. Everyone said it wouldn't last. 15 years of marriage later, with 20 years invested in each other, and we are still going strong. Sure, it wasn't always smooth, or easy, or comfortable, or any of those things. But the secret is choice. Every moment of every day always choose your marriage and each other, and nothing can stand against you. It's not 50/50, it's 100/100, never forget that. Best wishes to you both and a long and prosperous marriage!
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Cassie
7/26/2017 05:44:17 am
I married my high school sweetheart at 19! We are going on our 12th year of marriage and I'm am more in love with my husband today then I was then! We have 3 beautiful children and a very blessed life! Nothing in life comes easy but if you work at it you can make anything happen! Of course it's not always easy, but it's always worth it! Congratulations 🎉 and best of luck!
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Gwen
7/26/2017 05:49:20 am
I was 19 when I married. We had known each other less than a year, but I knew. I had no doubt he was the one for me. He asked me to marry him 3 weeks after we met. We faced so much opposition, we decided to on a planned "elopement".
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Matt Norton
7/26/2017 05:51:36 am
My wife and I got married at 19. We heard the same things. Still married and still in love, and going stronger than ever. Do your thing, and let the haters hate. They just #jelly.
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Samantha
7/26/2017 05:54:24 am
I think in the passed it was common and now that it's not people shy away from it and think it's always a bad thing. I myself married my husband when I was 19 as well. We now have been married for 10 years. We have two boys and live like every other married couple does. I don't think age is the biggest problem with marriage I think it's the divorce rate. Everyone is so quick to just end their marriage. Best of luck to you guys. My best advice is to know with each fight why you guys got married in the first place!
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I was also a 19 year old bride. I received similar comments, even after I was married. But it didn't matter. We are going on 21 years of marriage and have six kids. I love him more today than the day I got married. We promised to always date each other and to remain loyal. It has not been easy. We have had to push through the hard and continue to do so. But it was worth it. You are both lucky to have each other:)
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Kimberly Barnard
7/26/2017 06:13:09 am
As a 19 year old bride myself the same things were said to us 34 years ago. My husband at the time was 19 as well. We did not have children until I was 22 years old After 5 children and 34 years of marriage we are still going strong. I say LOVE wins and prove everyone wrong!
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Amanda
7/26/2017 06:22:32 am
This is super sweet. You have a good head on your shoulders--you're a deep thinker and have definitely weighed the situation. I'd say you sound like someone who's as ready for marriage as anyone could possibly ever be :)
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Lori Miller
7/28/2017 11:37:45 am
I learned how to change a tire along the side of the road reading the owners manual out of the glove box. I have done it a few times since then too. Not recommended but doable.
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Nikki Gullion
7/26/2017 06:24:50 am
Congratulations! You are wise beyond your years and it seems you are moving into this new and exciting time in your life with your eyes wide open. Good for you! My husband and I were married at 20 and we will happily celebrate our 26th anniversary next week. We have 3 beautiful children, the 2 oldest both got married in 2015 (one at 21 and the other at 20) and our youngest is 18. We just returned from a trip to TX to visit our daughter and her husband and welcome our 1st grandbaby into the world. Has it all been sunshine and roses? Nope. Have we always loved each other well? Nope. Have there been times when we wanted to throat punch each other. Probably, LOL! But, we remain. We remain committed. We remain best friends. We remain loyal. We remain husband and wife. We love amd are so grateful for this crazy adventure of a life God has blessed us with.
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Bev
7/26/2017 06:31:46 am
Beautiful article! I wish you both so much joy in your marriage! My husband and I just celebrated 36 years of marriage. Many ups and downs, joys and sorrows. A little advise that you may or may not take. 😊
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Vickie Thomas
7/26/2017 06:55:44 am
Married at 19, and I remember some of those same reactions. Still married 22 years later. Not easy. Not all good times. But, I knew he was the right person, and it was the right time. Been through so much, and this week, when I found out that I have cancer, he has been my rock, has been since we first met. He's my partner for life, and I am incredibly fortunate to have found him when I was so young. What a blessing!! Wishing you much love and happiness 🙂
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Rebecca
7/26/2017 07:07:37 am
I was married 1 month after I turned 18. Although I do not have one of these wonderful stories about the marriage lasting into the double digits, I have to say I do not regret it much. It's been over 7 years since I last saw him, but we have occasionally spoken through out the years. And frankly, we still are great friends, we just have moved on and out of respect for our spouses do not keep more in touch. When we split I started searching for answers and a solution to the pain I felt. I read the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and I discovered what was missing in our relationship. We did not know how to effectively communicate our love to each other, we simply missed all the moments the way. After reading the book I sent him a copy and wrote a note that told him I wanted his future to be successful and happy and that the book would be helpful. We both shared a phone call where we cried and talked about it. Our marriage at this point was long past repair but we were able to salvage the rest. My point is, learn to be open communicators. Learn to express love in ways you do not feel it. Learn to accept love in ways you don't typically feel love. You can have a successful marriage at a young age, it will not be easy, but learn from the failure and you will find success.
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Sam
7/26/2017 07:08:22 am
I got married at 21 and she was 20. I figure that if I know what I want to do, why wait? Time is priceless and there's no such thing as being "ready."
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Marli
7/26/2017 07:23:45 am
Absolutely love this❤️ Married my high school sweetheart a little over a year ago at 19. He was 21. And NOW we're having our first baby and we couldn't love life anymore! Thank you for this!
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Jordan Fullerton
7/26/2017 07:30:57 am
I am 18 and I am getting married in 2 months. Thank you for the inspiration. Those feelings couldn't have been said better. It's hard to be happy about a wedding when everyone around you is so negative. I am not pregnant yet my own brother and sister-in-law were the first to jump to that conclusion. It has not been easy but without the support of my fiance I wouldn't have made it this far with the wedding plans. I figure if my grandparents were married at 18 and they have over 60 years of marriage then why can't I do it? With love, commitment, and God on our sides we can conquer all.
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7/26/2017 07:35:13 am
I truly love this story. I first married when I was 45, my husband 12 years my junior. We met on match.com, I lived in Torrance Calif, Michael in Arnold, Mo. We did the long distance for two years, Michael asked if I wanted to move to Missouri, with no hesitation I said yes. Moved July 28, 2008, married December 13, 2008. kudos to you and your husband. many, many years of ups and downs, getting through the rough times, enjoying the good ones. God bless you both.
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Alyssa
7/26/2017 10:44:36 am
What a lovely story! Blessings to you!
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Brittney
7/26/2017 07:48:29 am
I too married my soul mate just 8 days after turning 19yesrs old. Never have regretted it. We have two beautiful children and on 7/8/17 we hit 11 years of marriage 16 years together. Keep your head up congratulations Love love laugh
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Paula
7/26/2017 07:57:24 am
I was 19 when I got married.
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Rachael
7/26/2017 07:57:43 am
My husband and I were married at 19 years old. My mother thought it was just for sex but my my dress anyway. Kept insisting I was pregnant and we still booked the church. I was very sure of myself that this was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. We have 2 children and have been married 19 years. He is still my best friend, my confidante, my counselor, my love. I can't imagine looking for without him.
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Elizabeth
7/26/2017 08:00:01 am
My husband and I got married when I was 18 and he was 21. It wasn't easy, but marriage is never easy. I wouldn't change a thing, though, including the age at which I walked to the altar. We have grown together, changed together, laughed together, cried together, but it's always been together. We just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary, and I'm looking forward to the next 15 and beyond. Congratulations!
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Amanda Kinsey
7/26/2017 08:02:21 am
I went through the same thing. I was 19 when I got married to the love of my life, my partner in crime. Todd and I have been married 21 years have 2 amazing boys and couldn't be happiler. Hang in there and always follow your heart.
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Dovie loring
7/26/2017 08:14:06 am
I meet my husband at 19 and knew that I would spend the rest of my life with him, We got married when I was 21 and I still love him to this day, sadly to say he past away 2 years ago on august 3, He was 16 years older than me but that didn't matter. We had 3 kids and 5 grandchildren.
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Katie
7/26/2017 08:19:35 am
My mother was 16 when she married my father whom was in the navy...50 years, 6 children, 10 grandchildren, and 3 great grandchildren later...here they still are..working on 51 years in december.
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7/26/2017 08:40:33 am
Abbey, I wish you and your groom a life of God's joy, prosperity, good health and perseverance. I have stopped and prayed for you both, no because I think you are too young, but because all couples need prayer no matter their ages. Stay grounded in the Word, focused on each other and live in the moment.
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Amy
7/26/2017 08:49:34 am
I wish you better luck than me. I was married at 18. Today in fact is our 21st anniversary. However we are in the process of divorce. It's my doing. I too thought the ney-sayers were full of it. I loved him, and that was gonna be enough. No, I was young....and stupid (I'm not, I graduated top honors with all 3 degrees including my masters).
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Carrissa ?
7/26/2017 08:53:48 am
Back in the old days it was socially acceptable to marry young... I see nothing wrong with it as long as you keep your word true to each other... my brother is 21 his wife Is 18. They just got married on May 27th they have been together for a few years before hand. He is also in the Marines which has taken him away from her every now and then... of course they fight and argue and the distance sucks but they work together to make it work and when they see each other it's like new love all over again! The success is in realizing there will be fights and arguments and you won't always agree with one another... walk away cool off then come back and talk about it... Always support each other decisions can be rough sometimes but if you support him and he supports you then your doing it right! Your relationship is like building your own tower. Everyday a new brick block or stone is placed you make new memories, new stories, and love grows everyday.. of course like all tall buildings they become unsteady so you need to support it. Support him in his decisions and I am sure he will support you in yours! Never give up! Be a boss, Marry a Boss and Build an empire that will last forever! Congratulations and good luck to the both of you!
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Susan
7/26/2017 09:00:12 am
Dear Abbey,
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Harmony
7/26/2017 09:06:33 am
This is so perfect❤️
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Angie
7/26/2017 09:22:31 am
I was married at age 19 and I had absolutely no idea! Both of my parents were married 3 times each. This year, we celebrated our 26th anniversary! Neither one of us knew, but we learned together. It's hard, but soooooo worth it! Looking to celebrate another 26+
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Jaden Graves
7/26/2017 09:24:56 am
I loved this, I'm currently 18 almost 19. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and want to marry by next summer (which would be 4 years by then). We are waiting for marriage and want to live by God, his whole family married young and have been together for years. My family on the other hand are all divorced and re-married, most don't approve. They don't understand our faith and reasons, they want us to move in together and wait years. My dad highly disapproves, it crushes me because I love him dearly and I'll see marry young I just don't want to ruin our relationship. I just don't know how to make him understand that I'm not some child wanting to marry for sex. I want to marry because he's the love of my life. He feels like home, he makes me want to be a good person and he makes me feel so loved. I just don't want to lose my family over my choices that will make me happy.
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Kim Warford
7/26/2017 09:35:05 am
My husband and I were both 18 when we got married. Not pregnant, just over the moon in love. Next Wednesday, August 2nd we will celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. We have 4 children. We are more in love today than ever and feel so blessed to have each other. Congratulations on your marriage. Prayers and blessings for your marriage!!
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Kathy
7/26/2017 09:49:18 am
I was 19 and my husband was 22, we got married in 1971 and still married, it's been 46 years now.
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Andrea
7/27/2017 02:28:44 pm
Wow that's awesome!
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Kaylee
7/26/2017 09:50:22 am
I absolutely love this so thank you for your inspiring words. My husband and I have been married for a little over two years and we eloped when we were young. I was 18 and he was 21. The first year of our marriage we kept secret from everybody we loved. That was hard on our first year of marriage. The guilt I felt was almost unbearable. I was afraid of disappointing my parents and was crippled with fear thinking about what everybody would think about me. Now as I look back and have realized how far we've come, I just wish we could go back and change it because it wasn't worth it. I wanted the big wedding and the fellowship in that time of celebration, but instead I took that away from myself and instead eloped. We always say we may have a little wedding someday, but now I almost think what's the point... We are happily married still and are very happy that our love is out in the open. I am so glad to hear that you weren't afraid to take the next step because you were absolutely confident in your relationship that nothing else mattered. I think that's absolutely beautiful.
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Amanda
7/26/2017 09:54:17 am
I got married 2 months before I turned 19. That was back in 1993. Four kids and almost 24 years later, we're still married---happily, most of the time! :)
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Jenè
7/26/2017 09:58:57 am
I love this! I married my high school sweetheart when he was 18 and I was 19. We will celebrate 20 years of marriage next June! I love him now more than the day we said our vows. Just when I think I can't love him more.....it happens again!! God bless your marriage!
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Haley
7/26/2017 10:01:21 am
I feel the same as you. I got married at 19. My parents told me I was stupid and thqt it wouldn't last. Everyone around me was saying the same things. But i didn't care. I love my husband and we're very happy together. We have a baby on the way too. I already had 1 daughter when we met, and he's treated her just like he does his son. We surprise each other every day with something new. My family and friends have gotten over us being "young and dumb" about getting married and now get along. I love my little family and we continue to grow and learn together everyday.
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Miranda
7/26/2017 10:04:31 am
My husband and I got married July 23, 2016. Just one month before my 19th birthday. I was 17 when we got engaged!! Living in a small town (1400), people talked and rumors spread, fast! Now, a year later, we are still together. More in love than ever. And we get to cuddle our 2 month old daughter together every day. Wouldn't change a thing!! ❤
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Danielle
7/26/2017 10:05:01 am
I too was a 19 year old bride and my grooms was 17, yep you read that right, 17! We will celebrate our 12th anniversary together this December! Yes I was pregnant, yes it has been hard, yes I've thought about leaving several times! He completes me! He has seen me at my best, my worst, my sexiest and my ugliest, he has seen me at my smallest and my heaviest and still loves me! I can't sleep without him not imagine this crazy beautiful life of mine without him! So with that said with GOD, LOVE, and a whole lot of TRUST you got this!
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Cassandra W.
7/26/2017 10:18:46 am
My husband and I just celebrated our 23rd anniversary July 4th. We started dating when I was 16 and I KNEW he was my soul mate. We married when I was 17 and he was 22. We haven't looked back nor regreated anything. We have 2 children that are about to start their own lives. That is what you have to always remember. This is your life Abbey and as long as YOU and yours are happy that is what matters. Always remember if you put God first and your husband second, you will not have anything to worry about. May the Lord bless you as he done me.
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Brenda cathey
7/26/2017 10:24:39 am
I married at 14 . It lasted 36 years untill we lost a son . He went to drinking and taking pills to cope. I coped alone . I gave him 5 years to get over his grief but he got addicted and I couldn't do it alone any more. I still love him but can't live that life . I remarried 18 years ago but am still freinds with my x. My husband now knows it and he is freinds with his also. You don't go through marriage without problems but you just don't quit after a fight and there will be many at your age because you both will change abuot every 5 years. I know I went through it all . You do what your heart tells you to do but also listen to your brain . Lots of love and luck to you both
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Breeanna Adams
7/26/2017 10:51:14 am
I am so glad that I came across this today and at this point today. I am 21 and just got engaged to my boyfriend who is 20. I am having the same problem and little support from family. It really has gotten me down and today of all days I have cried about it. So, I am so glad that I was scrolling through and saw this. I guess God is looking out for me and trying to tell me to hold my head up! <3
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Tamesia
7/26/2017 10:53:08 am
Abbey this was beautiful your right it's not about approval it's about the love you two share and if your willing to take that leap you got to step out on faith I wish you both many years to come congratulations
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Kara
7/26/2017 10:57:52 am
I believe it's the relationship, not your age that matters. I was 33 when I got married. Being older actually added more challenges to our marriage in my opinion. We both had past issues to overcome and still have many things we work on daily! I love him, though, and it's worth it! We have two beautiful boys and each other. It will be nine years in September.
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7/26/2017 10:58:48 am
Congratulations I was married at 20 years old and that was 31 years ago. I too was told all of that even back then, no I was not pregnant, I did not have to get married we wanted to get married, yes there have been plenty of ups and downs, but your relationship will grow emensly over the years. I love my husband more today then yesterday and we have proven them all wrong, can't wait for our 50th...
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Katie Ahern
7/26/2017 11:25:44 am
Statistics don't like sweetie! Good luck I hope you make it.
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Murriel Scarborough
7/26/2017 11:30:39 am
We were " too young to know and stupid also" according to whispered comments ( I was 20 and he was 21) BUT 53 years later we have 3 beautiful children and 3 fantastic grandchildren. The key is the commitment!!! You look deep into each other's eyes and vow until death do we part. That means through thick and thin , "it's you and be Babe!" Go for it- marry for love: work for riches
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Samantha
7/26/2017 11:31:46 am
I think you are completely incorrect that we are never completely ready for marriage. My husband and I waited 3 years to get engaged, and had lived together for two years, we knew we were ready. It wasn't scary because we knew we were in love and still are best friends. And most people change so much after their teenage years, they become a completely different person. This is why I would frown on someone getting married at your age. To each their own, everyone is different. Good luck on your adventure.
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You are amazing. I married at 16. Everyone said those exact things to me. Family, friends, strangers. It wouldn't work out. That was 31 years ago. We are still happily married, he kisses me while I'm cooking all the time. We have 9 children. It doesn't matter how old you are, it matters who you are. May God bless you and your marriage.
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Myranda
7/26/2017 11:36:08 am
I got married when I was 20 years old to my husband is in the Marines & man do I really wish I would have seen this post during our wedding plan. I remember begging to hear the approval of my family, & friends especially. It was always like they put me in this bubble of taking me as a joke. Thank you for your post Abbey!
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Amanda Spears
7/26/2017 11:37:41 am
I understand totally how you feel I was 20 and my husband was 18 when we got married and I heard it all believe me I wanted to tell everyone to shut up or don't come but it does work it takes a lot of effort and time but we have been married as of January 29 22 years.... God bless you and your husband
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Amber
7/26/2017 11:37:59 am
I was 17 and my husband was 20 we got married January 1st 2016!! I love him more today then I did the day we got married !!!
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Desirae Reitz
7/26/2017 11:41:26 am
This sounds just like my story. Hayden and I got married while we were 18, seniors in high school everyone talked about us. I heard she must be pregnant, they don't know what they are thinking, they won't last a year, and more than you could imagine. Yes I know we were young and not even graduated from high school thing was we didn't care what people thought about us we were happy with our decisions and we loved each other so much. To this day people still give us crap about being married and now pregnant. We have been together for almost 5 years and married for a year and a half. We are about to have our little baby girl in 22 days or less than that and we couldn't be any happier! We have our lives together our own home, both employed, both in the military so when people say people are to young to know what love is or we are irresponsible, everyone is different and we all have our own stories and yes mine wasn't always perfect but what relationship isn't?
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Elizabeth
7/26/2017 11:53:21 am
I got married 3 days after my 19th birthday to a man who was my bestfriend and I know is the love of my life. I heard everything when we got engaged...I was pregnant, a gold digger, stupid, ruining my life, ETC, ETC. I'm so glad that I didn't listen. We've only been married for a year. But it has been incredible. We've had some ruff patches. We went through more 2 months after we got married than most couples do in several years, his father passing away, my grandfather getting very sick, miscarriage (got pregnant after we got married, seriously.). I never once doubted my desicion. No matter what has happened between us, it just brings us closer. I always think to my great granparents, she was 14 and he was 21 when they got married. Until the day she died last June, they were so in love. They still looked at each other with that puppy love gaze. A beautiful love story. I hope mine will be as good as theirs.
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Yvonne Holmquist
7/26/2017 12:03:05 pm
Abbey, thank you for sharing your story, don't worry about a thing, you sound like a truly beautiful young woman and you are absolutely so ready for your life together with your lucky man. Start your journey together, love each other always, and hang on!! You are right, there will be ups and downs, sadness, joy, pain, every emotion known to humans, but a true love will endure!! Together your love for each other will get you through all of it. Trust me when I tell you that a real true love lasts forever, I too, married at 18, heard all of what you have and yet here I am, my husband and I just had our 38 years of marriage. Unfortunately, my husband was diagnosed with Dementia 5 years ago at age 55, and now lives in Memory Care, he calls me every night at the same time to tell me of his day, to say I love you to each other and goodnight, it's like we are each others link to what was and there are days when my heart aches so badly, I feel like I can't breathe and I know that I will love this man until my last breath. People have even been so bold and rude I guess, to ask me, "don't you wish now that you hadn't married him so young, you might have made a different choice, if you had been older and saved yourselfl this pain?" I simply reply, "absolutely not, I would not change a single thing, or give up even a moment of our life together, not any of it, the bad, the good, the pain, it's our journey, our life together!!" So you and your love take your journey together, make lots of memories, there will be times when you will need those, cherish each other and NEVER forget what it was that made you fall in love in the first place, remember the bad never lasts, it will pass!! SLOW DOWN, BREATH, SOAK UP EVERY MOMENT AS IF IT WERE YOUR LAST!! Wishing you both a wonderful life together!!
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Taylor
7/26/2017 12:10:53 pm
I don't want to hurt anyone or crush young love; I know how that feels. I too was married at 19 and accused of having a "shotgun wedding." No, I was not pregnant. Yes, I was in love. The thing is, my brain wasn't fully developed. I can tell the difference between me and my decision making at 19 and me and my decision making at 31. I have been married for 12 years and would never repeat getting married so young again. Life is SO hard and adding an unnecessary and ill-advised complication to that just makes things miserable. If someone absolutely feels the need to get married young, wait to have children until both of you are educated and/or in your career. I had my first child at 21 and 3 more every 2 years after (not planned). Each child is yet another complication to an already brutal game. The bad thing about getting married young is, to be married correctly you have to devote yourself to someone else and paradoxically to be young correctly you need to devote yourself to your own self development. Marriage creates a battle between the two. You have forever to be married but only a limited time to be young. Sorry for the counterpoint. Young love is sweet, and it is so hard to hear such things when you're in love.
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Granmama
7/26/2017 12:11:00 pm
Lots of comments here so you may never read this... but I married at 19 and that was 50 years ago. I will go to Heaven loving him more than I thought was possible!
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Josi
7/26/2017 12:12:40 pm
This is beautiful! I just turned 19 a few weeks ago and am getting married in 14 days! This was exactly what I needed. Thank you
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Mary
7/26/2017 12:26:04 pm
I, too married just 12 days after I turned 19. My best friend, lover and gift from God was 20. I lost him just 1 day shy of being married 39 years in 2014. We had our final goodbye at the church we were married in and my girls and I had a celebration dinner in the chapel we had our wedding reception in. It was amazing! We dated less than a year after deciding on our 2nd date I was going to marry him. Those were the shortest 40 years of my life! Our unexpected pregnancy arrived as a 5 lb 12 oz. beautiful tiny girl 4 years and 2 months after our wedding date. LOL We heard those rumors too! Almost 6 years later we were blessed with another beautiful girl. He had 4 brothers and I had 6! We had so much fun with those girls! He braided their hair every morning before school because he could do it best! We struggled those first few years because we didn't put God first in our marriage. After making that decision, our life together was beautiful! Sure, we still struggled but we struggled together instead of apart like we used to do. We made a decision to wake up every morning putting the Lord first in our lives then we put each other before ourselves. It worked for us until the very end! Listen to your heart, fight hard and love BIG! Most of all, have fun!!! Life is way to short not to! Blessings to you both!
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Kacey
7/26/2017 12:27:18 pm
I am 18 years old and my fiance proposed to me March 30th, 2017. We've been together for 4 years and he joined the air force in January of 2017. We know what we want and that is a life with each other and yes people think we are crazy and stupid for getting married at such a young age but it's what makes us happy and that's all that matters. Military relationships are hard already so why would we make it harder than it already is by being away from each other all the time. I'm moving to New Mexico with him next year and then in 2019 we will be saying our I do's!
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C G
7/26/2017 12:32:30 pm
Well said! I was married 20 years ago to the love of my life. I was 18 years old. I recieved the same feedback and heard the same comments. I understand completely your perspective! Congratulations and I pray for many happy years ahead!
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Kristina
7/26/2017 12:42:19 pm
I think getting married young so wonderful you have saved yourself so much Hardship and created so much joy last you throughout your life. just think of all the baggage that people have with their late twenties or thirties different relationships that left their hearts broken you don't have to have that baggage. you are free to learn about each-other and to finish growing up and grow old together. congratulations on your wedding and on your marriage.
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7/26/2017 12:57:16 pm
Thanks for sharing your story online, but I have to wait until my boyfriend graduates from High School, and we both might graduate the same year in college since I want to talk with him about it whenever he gets a good chance to do so. We haven't seen each other for a month, and I've been with him for 1 year and 11 months. I can't believe our journey continues but we're planning on doing stuff together, but I get it. Hoping we can find stuff we like about it, and I can't wait to see him this weekend. I think my boyfriend and I are a perfect couple for each other, but I'll see what we can do since I want to move out of my hometown so badly but good luck on your journey!
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Katelyn
7/26/2017 01:05:34 pm
I’m 19 right now and I’m engaged. We don’t plan to get married until next year and by then I’ll be 21. Planning a wedding is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Especially with all the judging eyes watching at all times. I get asked everyday if I’m pregnant yet because everyone thinks that’s why we’re getting married. Ever since we got engaged a lot of our friends stopped talking to us. I don’t really have any friends anymore and that’s hard.
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I got married really young, also...met the love of my life right after we turned 20, and we were welcoming our first child at 22 (married at 23). NO, our oldest daughter isn't the reason we got married (so many people assume this), but we were engaged and found out I was pregnant all within the same couple of weeks...I heard the same crap you're hearing, and just let me tell you: when you're 32 and still together, no one will remember how young you were when you got married. Odds are, you won't even surround yourself with the same people. The things you care about in your teens and 20's -- like caring what others think -- won't matter NEARLY as much to you as they do now. But you and your husband will have a decade's worth of memories to laugh at, like certain fights, burning dinner, seasons of being broke, escapades in moving, and learning together how to be good parents. It won't be pretty every day, but true love is REAL, and it doesn't have a required minimum age.
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Amy
7/26/2017 01:28:44 pm
I was married when I was 18 and he was 19. We will celebrate 21 years of marriage this September! I love him now more than the day we said I do!!
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Christine
7/26/2017 01:57:17 pm
Go, girl! I was married at 19. This year will make 46 years and 4 children, 5 grandchildren. Don't let other people take your joy!
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Dana Leapley
7/26/2017 01:59:50 pm
I got married when I was 18 years old and I was not pregnant. We are celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary next month. We had many hardships but they just made us a stronger couple. I love him more now then I did 25 years ago!
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Aunt tina
7/26/2017 02:08:07 pm
Got married on my 18th birthday and just celebrated our 42nd anniversary ! Not saying it's the easiest thing in the world but commitment is very important and respect for one another!!
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Darlene
7/26/2017 02:09:06 pm
My husband and I married at 18. In 1976. We shared almost 41 amazing yrs. He passed away a month ago. I love him yesterday, today, tomorrow, and forever until we see each other again. He waa my love and my best friend. I know everlasting love is still out there.
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Elizabeth Huber
7/26/2017 02:11:02 pm
I got married at the age of 19 as well. We had been together for 7 years before we got married. We will be celebrating our 2nd anniversary in September. Don't let what people say bother you. Its your life and your decision.
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Sarah Davis
7/26/2017 02:12:19 pm
No, it isn't all roses and rainbows and unicorns. But as a young bride myself, the good times are worth the whispers. Let them whisper and talk. They are missing out. Young love is hard, or at least it has been for me- I didn't completely know who I was- but it was well worth it. We are divorced, but we have an absolutely amazing son, and he will always hold a place in my heart and I am forever grateful to him for the experience. Pray hard and often. And you guys will have an amazing experience.
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Ryan Shannon
7/26/2017 02:21:47 pm
My mom was with my dad from 18 and married at 20. They have been together over 30 years happily married. GOOD FOR YOU!! Anything is possible!
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Miranda
7/26/2017 02:34:33 pm
I also am 19 and about to get married in a couple of months (so stinking excited!!!). I have had so many people from back home saying how weird it is or odd that I'm getting married a year after getting out from high school, and it hurts. I've even had a person ask my mom if it was a shotgun wedding. All I know is that I'm ready. I'm ready to start my life with my fiancé and go through all the good and the bad times with him. I know I won't have to go through it alone because he will be there constantly by my side. And how lucky I am to be able to go through life and learn about life alongside him. I know what I'm getting into, I know it's going to be hard, but I also know it's going to be worth it! Thanks so much for sharing your story, it really meant so much to me💕
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Lots parkhurst
7/26/2017 02:37:53 pm
My husband and I have been married 26 years now. He was 28 and I was 18 ,we knew each other for 2 1/2 months before we got married, so when you truly love someone age dose not matter. Congrats on your marriage and many happy wishes
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Angel
7/26/2017 03:00:21 pm
I am 19 years old and my wonderful fiancé is also 19, he will be turning 20 in September. In a about two weeks we will be eloping with only a few close friends there and his brother. I wish we could tell our families but times are different now and will tell us that they want us to wait and live our lives to the fullest. He is also in the Navy and he still has some schooling left but with the way the world is now you never know what's going to happen when our service members get deployed. With that being said I can't wait until I get to marry him because he is my best friend and he is my other half. I have had feeling for him since I was fifteen and with everyday that has gone by my feelings for him have grown stronger. I am honestly glad I saw this post because it's exactly what I needed to hear. I love my sailor with everything in my heart and I want to be by his side as much as possible before he gets deployed and I want him to always remember that I will always be here for him.
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Angelisa
7/26/2017 03:00:47 pm
I'm still going to be honest. I'm not saying your marriage won't work out but these are hormones talking. If you weren't pretty you wouldn't be married at 19 and yes I'm 24 and bitter.
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Shykia Jackson
7/26/2017 03:03:27 pm
I know exactly how you feel . I'm engaged and I'm 19 , I plan to get married next year in July but I'll be 20 by then. I get asked all the time "you sure you're ready " " how do you know you're ready " " it's just puppy love " etc . I ignore the comments all the time because if I don't , I'll be asking myself the same questions people ask me and without a doubt , I know I'm ready . Keep your head up and keep God 1st and your marriage will be a success .
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Sarah
7/26/2017 03:04:57 pm
Way to go with this! I think people don't actually know how common "young marriage" actually is and how successful it can be when you're willing to work for it.
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Annmarie
7/26/2017 03:15:46 pm
I wasn't married at 19, but I fell in love with my husband at 19 and knew we'd be married at some point. We did however have a baby at 19 and 20, got married at 22 and 23....14 years later I love him more than I thought I ever could. He's my happy place and he calls me his warmth.
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Jeanna Zajicek
7/26/2017 03:25:04 pm
My husband and I were just turned 21 when we were married. We were college sweethearts. 15 years and 6 beautiful children later, we are still madly in love. We grew into adulthood together, and I wouldn't trade that for anything. I hope my children choose the same path-and since my oldest is almost 13, I'm hoping for grandkids before I turn 46! ( I'm 36 now)
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Jeanna Zajicek
7/26/2017 03:27:11 pm
***had just, not were just! Uhg!
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Lorna
7/26/2017 03:35:36 pm
I was 17 years, 3 months & 19 days old when I married the love of my life. We will celebrate our 42nd anniversary next week. We were blessed with 2 sons & now 4 grandchildren. No, it hasn't always been easy...but the journey together has been wonderful. I feel so blessed. My grandmother from England was able to attend which was an added blessing.
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My husband and I were married at 19 and 21. We celebrated our 18th anniversary 7/24/17.
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Debbie
7/26/2017 03:40:49 pm
I married at 18 and went through the same things. We were married for 28 years, until he passed away. Things were not always easy but we were always a team. No matter what. I mourn him still and always will. Have a wonderful and very happy life! There is definitely an advantage to growing up together.
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Taylor
7/26/2017 03:41:26 pm
I needed this. It brought tears to my eyes. I'm obsessed with this story and will probably read it everyday for a while.
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Kalani
7/26/2017 03:46:27 pm
I loved this💓💓!! It was beautifully written 😩✨🌏
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Kelly
7/26/2017 03:52:17 pm
I love this!! And even though I don't know you, I adore you!! And your guy is lucky to have such a wise lady by his side. I married my husband at age 20 and no, I wasn't pregnant either. We got the same resistance from people. We grew up together. Nearly 21 years later, through many rocky moments, 2 sons, many separations due to the military...we've survived!! I can't honestly imagine my life without him!! Good luck to you and your love!! With such a strong and intelligent head on your shoulders, you're going to just fine. Congratulations!!
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Kelly
7/26/2017 04:10:19 pm
I'd also like to add that before proposing, (after only 4 months of knowing one another) my husband talked to his mom. Her advice?? "I knew your dad 10 years before we were married and I can't stand him now!" Haha!! Her point was, age and time don't increase your odds of making it. (They've since divorced) Accepting each other, working through the difficult times, celebrating every joy together... that's what makes it work. Being true to yourself and your spouse will give you a lifetime of happiness! You don't need to be 27 and have dated 10 years.... you need to be smart. And you clearly have that in spades!!
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Jazmyne Petrillo
7/26/2017 04:06:27 pm
There is mo problem with getting married at 19 I did and have been happily married for 9 months now
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My granddaughter is 20 and she just got married to a wonderful man from Ireland. They have talked about marriage but wanted to wait till they both finished college she has two years left and he has the same time in England to finish his college. Just last month she told me she is getting married in July this year and I asked why are you doing it so soon since your plans were to wait till your college is over and start a new life together. She replied I love him and he loves me and I don't want to be without him in my life. I asked how are you going to work out the time apart him in England and you here in the USA. She said we will get through that time and work as a team to get to where we want to be and our love will hold us together for the rest of our life. I said OK I support you one because you have thought this out and realize there will be hard times ahead and you know it won't be easy and will work together to make it work. There is no guarantees in life and love or marriage all one can do is go with how they feel and look ahead and hope and work for the best outcome. You have to do what is right for you and that is always a hard thing to do or know. Congratulations Abbey for knowing what you want in life and going for it. Like my granddaughter she knows what she is getting into and is willing to go for it and make it work and be happy and that is all each of us can do in life. Abbey may you and yours have a wonderful life and enjoy you life together forever...
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Adaliz Fuentes
7/26/2017 04:15:41 pm
Hi! We've married when I was 18 and he 21. Today we been married 20 years. Our daughter is 18 and our son 14. We love each other more than 20 years ago. We have up's and down's like every marriage but is beautiful spend our time together. God bless your marriage!!!
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7/26/2017 04:20:20 pm
I got married at the age of 17. I was pregnant but not on accident. My soon to be husband and I Anne's each and every one of our children. All 3 of them!! We are happier now and more in love than ever before. Twenty years and eight months ago I married my soul mate. This was the beat decision I could have ever made. My life has been hard but worth every minute of it. My advice to you is to ignore all of the people in your life that are not supportive. Luckily mine and his parents were supportive, and signed for me to marry what is now the best friend that I could have never known would be the best thing to ever happen to me. Marriage is hard. Give in and stand your ground. Love with recklous abandonment. Don't talk bad about your spouse to your family ever, you want them to love him. Marriage is a contract and through thick or thin, you are in it together. Honor and love one another and never cheat. There is always another way. Use your words!!! Good luck and congrats!!
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I wanted to get married at the age of 19 to my high-school sweetheart but of course everything negative was said to me about how I am too young and I literally had people tell me that they will not support me because I am making a young minded decision.... I wound up allowing people to push me away from the guy and he did as well. I then later got married to another man at the age of 22 and the same things were said to me. I was told that I was young that I didn't have to marry this person they thought I should Explore More how silly is that. So I don't think it matters how young or old you are people always try to find something negative it just makes it even harder when your love can be made to be less important just because of a young age. I am happy with the man I've married. I just know the hurt and disgust one can feel by not being supported. I now tell any young person that talks to me about marriage that if he's the one you know it and don't let anyone tell you anything different let it be your own decision whether you marry them or not. Thanks for sharing this.
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Wendy
7/26/2017 04:29:24 pm
I was 19 when I married the love of my love and it'll be 12 years this year! Goodluck!!
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Amanda
7/26/2017 04:42:29 pm
I wouldn't worry about what people say. In the future, you can prove them wrong. I was married a month after my 20th birthday. We heard the same things you are hearing. That was in 2001, it is now 2017 and we are still going just as strong and in love as that day. <3
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Roberta
7/26/2017 04:42:33 pm
I would like to say congratulations. I was married at nineteen. My husband and I will be celebrating this year our 28 anniversary. We met when I was 18. People wondered too if I may have been pregnant but that wasn't the case. I loved him and still do. Seems like we just married yesterday. Best wishes to you and your husband. Take each day as it comes and don't put off till tomorrow.
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Desiree Elliott
7/26/2017 04:48:39 pm
I got told the same thing I got married when I was 20 everyone said I wasn't ready though I was pregnant when I got married that didn't change the fact of how much I love my husband
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Dawn
7/26/2017 04:53:43 pm
I wss 18 & my husband was 19 when we got married. In January we celebrated 35 years. We have grown up together! Has it been easy? NO, but I would do it again. I love our journey.
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Adrianna
7/26/2017 05:06:48 pm
Got married at 16. Celebrate our 20 years Oct 2017! Love of my life. We were not high school sweethearts, he's 5 years older, we both were teased especially from our parents. We love proving everyone wrong. When you meet your mate, you know it.
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Andria
7/26/2017 05:14:56 pm
I married my best friend at 17, two days before my 18th birthday. No I wasn't pregnant nor did I marry him for sex or a lavish married life. Actually, I married the boy next door....literally! We grew up together him living right across the street from me. We started dating my junior his senior year and although we had flirted with each other for the longest time it took that long for him to ask me out. In fact when he finally worked up the nerve and asked me my response was to give him a punch on the arm and say it's about time!! From there fireworks flew and it wasn't long before we realized that we were meant for each other. That was back in 1993 when we were married. At an age where I got the same back lash for marrying too young. Together for 26 years and married for 24 years we are still going strong! Don't get me wrong, sometimes it's been tough but we ALWAYS make it through. Why? Because we love each other now all these years later even more since the day we said I DO! When you find your soul mate you just know and I found mine. I wish you all the love in your marriage "young 19" year old bride.
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Anna
7/26/2017 05:17:34 pm
You sound more mature (and aware of what marriage really is about) at your age than what most 25, 30 or 35 year olds are! Good luck and God's blessings on you!
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Lori
7/26/2017 05:17:46 pm
I met my husband when I was 15. Married when I was 17. And going on our 36th anniversary this Nov. The priest at his church wouldn't marry us and told us it was a mistake. Marriage has it's ups and downs but, always remember why you fell in love and it will get you though anything. Best wishes. You may not have the support of your friends and family but look at the support you got from complete stangers.
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Jeremy
7/26/2017 05:25:39 pm
Yeah she's a hoe
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Marina
7/26/2017 05:41:12 pm
You go girl! I come from a very strict and traditional family. My husband is in the army in Texas and I was still in highschool in Kentucky when we got married. Everyone spread rumors that I was pregnant and all sorts of things but no we were and still are in love! We're both 18 and happily married. And our love continues to grow stronger everyday. Y'all don't listen to what the world has to say and go be happy together!
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Deanna
7/26/2017 05:48:57 pm
I was married when I was 21 and our 10th anniversary is coming up, people doubted us and our relationship is still alive today, don't give up, it's ok to admit when you're wrong, compromise and everything will work out.
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Wendy
7/26/2017 05:53:52 pm
I met my husband when I was 18, 3 months after I graduating high school. We were 20 and 22 when we got married. Here it is 31 years later still madly in love with two grown kids. : )
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Linda
7/26/2017 05:56:16 pm
We were 19 and 20 when we got married. This year in November we will be celebrating our 53th Wedding Anniversary. It is work but it is all worth it. Congrats on your Wedding.
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Queen
7/26/2017 06:13:00 pm
I'm so happy you posted this because this is exactly what I've been going through. All of those comments like "you're just in it for the sex, and the others were all made to me and even more. I have even had those closest to me tell me my marriage will most likely fail. However, finally someone has said something . I'm getting married next year right out of high school, but I honestly wouldn't have it any other way. He's 21 and I'm 17. I Can't wait to see what life has in store for us, the good and bad.
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WEH
7/26/2017 06:39:53 pm
When we were married, I was 19 and my husband of 47 years had just turned 20. I'm not going to say it was easy it was not! Though, we determined to stick to our commitment to each other and mostly we learned to put GOD first, then our spouse, then our 5 children. Now we have 19 grandchildren and one great grandchild. Also we both had to learn to die to our self. There cannot be me, me, me! Love is a decision! Commitment is a decision! Blessings to both of you!
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Loni
7/26/2017 07:11:36 pm
I was married at 18 and my husband was 22. Back in 1989. And we are still married and 3 children later. Do tell all them people to shut
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Christine
7/26/2017 07:11:55 pm
That was me 31 years ago! I was the 19 yesterday old bride.
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Janean
7/26/2017 07:16:36 pm
I was also a nineteen year old bride....25 years ago. Everyone made those nasty snide comments to me as well. People thought we were crazy and that my parents were nuts for "letting" me get married. The key to any marriage in intentionally loving your spouse unconditionally every single day. It won't be rosy all the time, but when things are bad or (gasp) just boring, remind yourself why you married that person in the first place. People who grow apart or say they were too young are lying (to themselves maybe?), it is selfishness and lack of self-control on one or both spouses part that ends a marriage.
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Kayla
7/26/2017 07:31:14 pm
I absolutely needed this in my life at this moment. Me and My Fiancé are getting married in May and we have been dating for the past 3 years. We have lived together for 2. And we have been best friends for 8. Everyone is excited for me except the one person that I need to care, my mom. I am 19 and Clint is 20. I would love for my mom to be happy and supportive but she has not came around. I hope she comes around that the wedding is coming. Your stpry has gave me hope and inspired me to not give up. Thank you for that.
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Jill
7/26/2017 07:48:04 pm
Congratulations!! What a lovely story!! I was married at 20 yrs old. & my husband & I have been married almost 18 yrs now. Your understanding of love is what makes you ready for this!! Continuing to both put each other's needs first will solidify you growing together!! If you wait until you have not growing up left to do, how can you grow together!? God on your husband's support is all you need!!
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Lisa
7/26/2017 07:50:28 pm
Married my husband when I was 18 and he was 19, proved all the nay-Sayers wrong as this year we celebrate our 30 year anniversary. 2 married children later, and it just gets better every day. Sssoooo happy that I didn't listen to those who focused on age.... they were so wrong and would have cost me the best blessing of my life!! Follow your heart, follow your dream, and follow Christ! There is no way to lose!
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Vivian Ramos
7/26/2017 08:00:00 pm
This is EXACTLY what I needed. This is so much encouragement while I go after the dream of marrying my best friend. Thank you for taking the time to type this and be extremely vulnerable to people listening to what you have to say. I have been so nervous about having the approval. We just graduated high school and wanting nothing but to get married. We're so ready for it but I have been struggling with the fact that it is looked as unnacceptable. I can't wait to go after it because the flame is only growing inside of me and I won't let it die so thank you !!!
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Cristin lewis
7/26/2017 08:27:59 pm
Hi! I was just wanting to say me and my husband are both 19, going on our 2nd year married. I have got to say it's the best love I could ever ask for and our light has not fallen once in our arguments or our love or our friendship, it has only gotten brighter:) and seems to only be getting brighter every time. I hope you both have the best life even through the rainy days and the best of luck on yalls new amazing journey together.
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Debbie
7/26/2017 08:30:40 pm
I was 19 and he was 21, we will be celebrating 36 years in August. We are still the best of friends! I wish you blessings & happiness in your marriage.
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Susie
7/26/2017 08:35:12 pm
I was married just after I turned 20-I had been with this boy since I was 16, he was 17...Everyone told us to wait, we weren't ready, same things you have been hearing. I was so in love, so NOT pregnant and ready to live in our crappy, cheap little apartment by the railroad tracks-I didnt care, as long as I got to make memories with him. We heard so many "dont do it"s that I had them print on the back of the envelopes our wedding invitations came in, a Winnie the Pooh quote "We'll be best friends forever, just wait and see" and this past March, we celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary, we have 3 beautiful children and now live in our dream home on a lake, 10 min from the beach. I still love him madly, I still don't care where we are, as long as we are all together and most importantly, he's still my very best friend. Good Luck on your journey, make so many memories and soak up all of them, it goes by fast-but it's a great life 💕
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Angelia Story
7/26/2017 08:38:15 pm
I married my husband when I was 19, he was 21. I enjoyed reading your story. We have three sons and this August 8, 2017 will be our 30th Wedding Anniversary!!!! My advise to you is live each day for you!! Don't worry about how others will see you. Make sure your husband and you always talk to each other even if at times you may not want to, communicating with each other is the key to a happy long marriage. Always find time for each other, life is short so make everyday count! I believe that love can last a lifetime, as you do!! Before you know it, you both will look around and 30 years will have passed by in an instant! Congratulations on finding your soul mate at and early age!!!
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Nic
7/26/2017 08:45:53 pm
Only you know what is right for you and your life. I am 35 and married to my first love from when I was 15 years old. We have a bond like no other. Do not let anyone discourage you. You are now a team. There will be ups and downs, but you will be able to look back at the memories and things that made you stronger. Congrats and wish you both the best of luck ❤
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Dezerea
7/26/2017 09:04:41 pm
Bless these two. I fell in love with my fiance at 16 years old. I got pregnant with our daughter at 17 and today at 18 I've still never felt happier with him. Bless the young love. As you get older more gets in your was to be happy. If you can find your sole mate young and live a happy life with someone everything goes by with a breeze. So fuck the hate. I hope these two stay together a long time
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Shelley
7/26/2017 09:15:33 pm
I just wanted to say your happiness is up to you. Don't even worry about all those nosy, grumpy people! My husband and I married at 18 almost 19 years ago; people were nasty! We decided the day before our wedding, after a fight over his very upset mother, that we were not going to let them win! We were going to make it, if it killed us! And we have, and we will, and so will you, if you are both in it to win it! God provides in amazingly beautiful ways when you trust him and give it all to him! Many blessings for years of happiness!
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Kellie
7/26/2017 09:20:06 pm
Got married at 18 a mint and a half after I graduated from high school. Been 18 for 5 months at that point. I heard all the rumors. I was pregnant, I was rushing it. None of them were true. He was just the RIGHT ONE!!!! And 31 years 4 kids 5 grandkids later we are still proving it. It hasn't always been easy but it has ALWAYS been worth it!!!!
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Amanda
7/26/2017 09:22:31 pm
My husband and I have been married 21 years. I had turned 20 just 5 months prior. My husband was 22 weeks away from 23. I do not think it odd to be married young. I think it a blessing to be able to weather the storms that may come or way. Congrats on your upcoming wedding.
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Bethany
7/26/2017 09:58:53 pm
If you truly in love then go for it
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Graham Canham
7/26/2017 10:42:57 pm
There appears to be one thing missing in the comments, a man's view.
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Megan
7/26/2017 11:05:16 pm
My little sister was engaged at 19 and is marrying at 20 in less than a month. It's been a journey to experience the joy of sharing the good news of her engagement and impending marriage with others followed swiftly with confusion as I receive doubtful and negative comments in return. Thank you for your post. I love my sister. I am happy for her. It's comforting to know that not everyone else in the world thinks that she's making a mistake. She's taking a brave step into a brand new world and I am here to support her. If I'm receiving this sort of negative feedback, I can't imagine what she's feeling and hearing. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in this piece.
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Lesa
7/26/2017 11:21:14 pm
Hey,
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Marriage
7/26/2017 11:47:12 pm
About being married, I absolutely think more youngsters should consider it. It gives you purpose, security, and yes, new challenges. Challenges that are healthy and rewarding at the same time. I felt really scared being married at 19. My family and his family were so opposed to it that after a few years it added more tension to our union that I finally decided to let go of the hope that I would ever be accepted into his side of the family. I was vulnerable and lacked self confidence. I still have some regrets of ending that marriage. In time, I healed, I grew up, and found purpose. I have my degree and two beautiful kids. The secret is to never EVER give up on ANYTHING. Just jeep working on yourself, your goals, and your relationships. Things will improve with time but you have to stay focused. 💙
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7/27/2017 02:19:36 am
Congratulations and best wishes. On July 8, 1980, three weeks after I turned 17, I married my husband (exactly seven weeks from the day we met). No, we didn't "have" to get married. We have celebrated 37 years together. Has it been easy? No. Would things have easier if I had been older? Probably not. Is getting married young for everyone? No. Will waiting "until you're ready or older" insure it will last? No. I wish you many years of happiness!
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Rebecca Hale
7/27/2017 02:28:22 am
My story sounds so similar to those I've read above. I married my husband when I was 20 and he was 22. He entered the military and just recently retired after serving almost 25 yrs. I completed college to become an atN and we had 2 beautiful children and are expecting our first grandchild later this yr. My parents were NOT supportive of me getting married at all. They said I was ruining my life and would never amount to anything. They didn't speak to me for months after I got married. My husband joining the military and our moving away from family was the best thing we could have done, because we had to take care of ourselves and rely on each other. I still feel so hurt by those words my parents said to me and the lack of support they gave me at that time. I missed out on having a wedding. However, my grandparents and other relatives were supportive. My aunt, his aunt threw us showers but my mother refused to come. Wounds that still hurt to this day. We begged my parents to get married. They said NO. Then we finally just told them we were going to and they said no, so we eloped and had his parents and a few other friends present. My mother tells people we didn't invite them. It still hurts to this day and is a subject we don't discuss. My mom wished other people happy anniversary but has never told me so. Trust your heart, your faith in God and lean on each other. God Bless for a long and happy life together
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Rebecca Hale
7/27/2017 02:40:09 am
I forgot to mention that this year we also celebrated 28 yrs. if marriage.
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Norma
7/27/2017 03:00:06 am
I was 17, my husband was 19. We just celebrated our 43rd anniversary
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Lara
7/27/2017 03:08:05 am
Married on my 18th birthday and just celebrated our 12 yr anniversary. Best wishes to you for a long and happy marriage.
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Lita Holland
7/27/2017 04:02:25 am
Abbey your story is mine! I married at 19 and endured the same types of comments and criticisms. Today is our 21st anniversary! We trekked through some rough terrain along the way, but we grew more in love while overcoming our obstacles together. Every minute of our journey has been worth it. Listen to your hearts and to God! Bless you both and bless your marriage!
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Pat
7/27/2017 04:15:26 am
Married 6 weeks after 18th birthday to a 20 year old I dated 9 months. 1st baby at 21-Going on 39 years. Growing up together strengthens a marriage, or at least in my case it created a strong team. And I am a "young" grandma so I can really play with my GKs.
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Jen D
7/27/2017 04:15:56 am
Abbey I understand your story completely. I got married at 18 (my husband was 17). December will be 3 years for us being together. And no I wasn't pregnant or anything like others would say. I just knew who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Don't let others put you down and all that stuff they say you have to know, well there's Google and YouTube (how I learned to change a toilet seat). Long as your happy that's all that matters. In my first two years of marriage it wasn't easy. We fought a lot. Some thought we would split. But it's about communicating and compromising. Give and take. I believe once you get past the first two years you're golden.
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Charlene
7/27/2017 05:32:39 am
Most people forget one little thing. Our grandparents and great grandparents all or most all martied even younger than 19 and it lasted. As acouple newly married you bith grow and learn to be a married couple together and being honest and trusting each other is the key to making a marriage work and last. Hold your head up high and walk proud and dont let the ones who make remarks against you bother you. Its thier marriage that orobably didnt last .
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Denise (from NLM)
7/27/2017 05:36:35 am
Beautifully written. I was 20, and I remember the hurtful voices too. I remember the supportive ones even more... and 24 years later, we're still growing together! You are right on... keep moving forward and just ignore the doubters, you don't need those opinions!
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Leslie
7/27/2017 05:50:42 am
I was 18.5 and he was 23. People said many of the same things about us. It grew us up BIG TIME! And we've had 36 wonderful years together. Wouldn't have done it differently EVER! Congratulations!
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Lesa Marie
7/27/2017 05:55:34 am
Your story moved me. It was like I was reading my feelings as a young girl. I married my husband at 17 and the very things you spoke of I experienced. Was she pregnant? People saying "It will never last." We have two beautiful children and tomorrow will celebrate 33 years of marriage! Yes there were bumps along the way but we would not be who we are today if we had not gone through growing pains.
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Halee
7/27/2017 06:00:25 am
I was a 19 year old bride 9 years ago next month. Congratulations to you and your husband. I wish you all the best.
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Beth
7/27/2017 06:01:54 am
Hold strong to your commitment to put each other first; it will get you through! Married 4 months after my 17th birthday, for love.....29 years and 3 kids later, we are still in love and growing together!
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Jenny H
7/27/2017 06:22:06 am
I was 19 when I got married the first time, it was scary and I did happen to be pregnant with his child and I already had one daughter of my own. Things were ok leading up to the wedding day and the wedding was wonderful, but it was just a short time after that things went terribly wrong with our relationship. He didn't understand that being pregnant takes a lot out of you and that the apartment was probably never going to be as clean as he expected it to be. Things will always go wrong and sometimes you won't know how or why or when or where it happened, it just does. I was married for 7 years to a man I thought loved me, like he did when we were dating. There was no love, only sex and hatred. It was just like living a horrible nightmare, you never knew what was going to happen next, all you knew was the next thing could be so much worse than the one before and you always seemed to be the target that he never missed. He even took a job that would make more money and would allow for him to do a lot of traveling which is something he always wanted to do but couldn't cause of having a family. It was actually nice not having him there for a couple days or even a week sometimes depending on where he went. But as soon as he got home if anything was out of place or left undone it was as if he never left. Things were getting worse with each trip he made for this job and after while he became even more distant and hateful. Finally one day he came home and he almost had this sigh of relief on his face and I thought ok maybe I did something right for a change and he's happy to be home. Oh no, I was dead wrong. He seemed happy cause he started talking to his ex-fiancé that he dumped when he found out she was pregnant with another mans child and had been cheating on him. When I heard that news I knew right then things were going to go straight down into the abyss, and sure enough it did. She started coming over and wanted to spend time with us and "get to know my daughters" and the next thing I knew he had come home late from being out with friends and I was already asleep and he came over and sat down beside me and said in a very soft, almost loving voice "I want a divorce". My heart and head went into total overload and I told him that he was dragging our daughters into a relationship with a woman they didn't really know, that wasn't their mother or even a friend. She had two children of her own which she didn't even have custody of which right there should've been a big no no. But he didn't care as long as he was happy. So I told him if that's the way he felt and that's what he wanted fine and that I was going to take our daughters and go stay with my family till I could find my own place. We even sat the girls down and explained to them what was happening and that mommy and daddy weren't going to be together anymore. We gave them the choice of who they wanted to be with and at first they were scared and didn't want to answer, which was completely understandable, but when they did finally say who they wanted to be with it was me. That gave me a great sigh of relief cause that meant my daughters wanted to be with their mother and not some old slut their father knew from back in high school. But he wouldn't have it. Things became worse than ever which made a side of me that I never knew was even there come out, I actually started fighting back. I started getting angry with him to the point that when the girls weren't around I would threaten to kick his butt and that nasty whore of his. I started getting so angry with him that instead of actually punching him I'd put holes in the walls and doors when my girls weren't round. The more she came around the angrier I got till finally he pushed me to far one day. I was packing up stuff in my car to take over to my parents house and he had come home for lunch like always and he noticed I was unplugging the tv I had bought with the money I had inherited from my grandmothers passing and he came over, shoved me to the ground with enough force to make me black out, took the tv to his car, raced off and went to the court house to get a restraining order. I never hurt anyone, yeah I hit the walls and doors but it was better than hitting him and spending time in jail for assault and battery charges. So he got his restraining order which separated me from my daughters and my belongings. I was finally able to go get my things after 3 weeks and an officer being present. I had my whole family there to help me get all the things that he allowed me to take. There were pictures and other things that I had inherited from family members when we got married that belonged to me but he wouldn't let me have and there was nothing I could do about it. After 3 months of not being able to see or speak to my daughters we finally got a court date and I was only allowed visitation every other weekend, odd years for holidays, and the first half of their summer vacation. I missed so much of them g
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Jamie
7/27/2017 06:30:23 am
I graduated at age 17 & hot got married the weekend after graduation. I have been married twenty years & if I could change one thing I would go back and wait til I was at least 20 to marry. I was incredibly naive. I was full of feelings of romance and did not even think it necessary to talk to my man about what kind of future he envisioned for us. It's been 20 years of him being in control and running over me, not caring about my hopes, dreams, or anything. We were married five years before we had kids and now we have five. I am making the best of it but I wish someone had talked to me and told me that not everyone believes marriage is a partnership. That I should talk and pick my prospective husbands brain to see what his values and ideas about life & marriage were first. That just because you have some amazing emotions, just because you heart yearns for someone, doesn't mean that someone is who you need to be your life partner. I once asked my husband if we could go to marriage counseling and he said "Why? We don't need it." He thinks he knows better than anyone on any given subject. So why would he need advice? I don't mean to be negative, I just wish every day that someone would have talked this plainly to me before I made a life long commitment.
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Lynn Blacquiere
7/27/2017 06:39:16 am
I am 54 years old. I married at the age of 18 and we celebrated 36 years of marriage in April. We have three sons ages 30, 32 & 34 and two beautiful granddaughters. I actually married during spring break of my senior year in high school. We bought our first home and decided to move up the date. I was the talk of the school. Joke was on them our first son was born 2 years after we were married. I too young, in love and very naive. It hasn't always been easy, truthfully, marriage is a lot of hard work, a lot of disagreements, a lot of crying, but thankfully the good outweighs the bad. You can and will make it as long as you both don't give up at the same time. We were recently at a wedding, they did the anniversary dance, there were only two couples left on the dance floor after 35 years. We were one of the couples. The last two years have been extremely difficult for me and I wanted to quit, but at that moment, on the dance floor, I knew I couldn't. We have accomplished something very few people do. I am looking at life through new eyes again, proud of our accomplishment and ready to finish this ride called life with the love of my life. Best wishes to you and blessings! Hang on tight for the ride of your life <3
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Michelle
7/27/2017 06:55:04 am
I was 19m when I got married. Our first date was New Year's eve, we were engaged in May and married in October. No it hasn't been perfect but show me one marriage that truly is. Just like everyone else, marriage is work, it's not all peaches and cream. But remember that's what makes it great. We've now been married 31 years and according to today's standards that's a "long" time. But guess what for me it's short and I pray we have a long time to go. There in lies the secret. Always put God first anb each other next and pray alot both together and individually. If you both will do that you can withstand any storm.
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Lisa Baginski
7/27/2017 07:03:09 am
Love this! I was that 18 year old bride almost 18 years ago and our marriage is strong. As a ROCK. Work at it and stay committed to each other. Never lose that feeling of being in love. It's an amazing thing that's hard to find today! We're about to celebrate our 18th year of marriage and I could not be happier. Together we've worked hard as a team and made all of OUR dreams come true! Wishing the very best for you!
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Holly
7/27/2017 07:26:32 am
This is written so perfectly and describes one of the most challenging feelings in life. I just turned 19 and became engaged, so this is perfect timing for this to have appeared in my life. Thank you.
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Jackie Sandoval
7/27/2017 07:32:27 am
Love is Love, no matter what the age is and God shows no partiality. My grandparents were married at the age of 16 and although their lives were cut short, because of an accident causing their death in 1994, they would have been married almost 50 years. But, not only that I met my soulmate and true love at the age 19 and he was 25 at the time back in 1991 and we were only together 2 months and I ended up pregnant. Most people would have assumed that I should have gotten married first or get married because I was pregnant. Well, quite the contrary, I deliberately chose not to get married right away to send a message to not only my family and friends but, to the world. Just because, the world thinks things should be a certain way doesn't mean that you need to do things according to the world (man's) ways and prospective of how things should be. In God's eyes, and prospective He gave me the confidence and assurance that my relationship was blessed in His eyes in a spiritual sense, now I did end up marrying my love and father of my child after my son was born and he was 4 1/2 mo's old and we've been together since, for 26 years. I love this man more today than I did yesterday! What God has blessed no one can come against. The union you have with your husband is God ordained and He chose you both for this Life to Love one another and to come together in holy matrimony for a reason and purpose. You have found true love! Let Love continue to be the foundation for your marriage and life! May you be blessed in your comings and goings. May everything you do together as One bring you divine favor with God and with all men. What God has brought together, let none come against! You are beautiful and you are enough. God loves you and He will continue to protect you and guide you. Do not listen to the evil words of the Wordly people's views, because you know that God has blessed you and that He has brought your true Love to you! Be blessed beautiful, girl, you are a child of the Most High! Hugs 💗🤗
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Breanna
7/27/2017 07:33:13 am
I married my husband 3 months after I turned 20. We are still in our honeymoon stage too. Our wedding was March 11, 2017. There were so many people who doubted us, who doubted our love and said we were too young. We met my freshmen year of high school, we have known each other for going on 5 years. We went through so many ups and downs, college for the both of us, and plenty of arguments along the way. Lol relationships are not pretty, but wow are they beautiful! Whenever you and the one you love make a pack together that splitting up is not the answer, the answer is working it out, then you will last a life time. Even if you have to stay up until 4AM and you have work at 7AM. Lol you stay up and fix it. Going to bed mad at each other is never good.💕 Girl dont let anybody dull your shine. You go and enjoy your married life and let everyone else who is doubting you sit there in their doubt. They only doubt you bc they doubt themselves. Nobody has ever said marriage is easy, but it sure is worth it. My husband is my world and I would never want to live in this world without him by my side.
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Tracy
7/27/2017 07:45:59 am
My husband calls us high school sweethearts but we met at work when i was 16 and he was 21. Officially started dating at when i was 18 and he was 23. Known each other for 11years, dated for 9 and been married 6years in June and have 2 amazing children and we're still incredibly happy. I was told that being married at 21 was too young but i did it anyways! Gotta live life by taking chances! I sure am glad that i did! <3
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Barry
7/27/2017 07:55:51 am
Nice story. Don't think that those close to you are against you just because they think you are rushing things. They are probably scared for you. Getting married young means nothing, age is a number and there are plenty of 40 year olds that can't make a marriage work. Think of marriage as a journey or a building you can't plan for everything or take everything with you but strategy is important and basics must be in place and a path to success outlined. If you try to build a building without a firm foundation it will crumble. You need more than love to make a marriage last. If your homeless or can't support yourself you become a burden to those around you. The reason the divorce rate is high is because more time is often spent planning the wedding than planning for the future. I saw someone use 46% failure rate if that is accurate...what about all the people who don't actually get married but still have failed relationships. Every relationship is going to suffer stress and frustration at times. It is the vow, the commitment that will be the bond, for better or worse. If you want better, then listen to those who love you and follow their advice. They have been down that road ahead of you! I got married at 19 and have no regrets. However, we were prepared. We both had decent jobs and bought a house the same week we got married. Now approaching 25 years. I wish everyone the best and may we meet at the end of our roads to celebrate the lives we lived and eternity.
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Cheyenne
7/27/2017 07:56:54 am
I am getting married in October and I will be 19 I know the struggle and the stress of people doing this. The thought of someone else who has had the same problem is heart touching. And my heart goes out to you. You found your happiness and I am beyond happy for you. I love the your story and it is soooo true.
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Hannah
7/27/2017 07:59:10 am
This is beautiful- thank you so much for sharing. I have been married to the man of my dreams for nearly two months now. We are 20&23. We got the same comments as you, and it really hurt. But we decided that they would not define our marriage. The fact is, getting married young is unconventional. And unconventional is uncomfortable for people who live conventional lives. But nobody who changed the world was ever conventional. Keep doing what you're doing girl, may God bless you and your hubby with a rich and blessed marriage!
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Dorothy Scott
7/27/2017 08:02:44 am
Abbey, I'm a baby boomer and people tend to forget that most of us got married right after graduation from high school. They also forget that our parents (my mom was not quite 17 and my dad had just turned 17) and our grandparents got married a LOT younger than 19. In my grandparents day, you would be considered a spinster and an old maid at 19. As the saying goes "you can't please everyone". Remember, communication is key. Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition. You both have to give 100 % all of the time. And most importantly, keep God first. For those who are hurtful, remember that people who hurt others are they themselves hurting. "Hurting people are hurting people." Now go love your husband with all your heart and the same for him. Congratulations and best wishes!!
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7/27/2017 08:02:58 am
I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant, engaged 3 days later, and married 2 1/2 weeks after that. I had known my husband for a couple of years as friends, but we had only been dating for a couple of months. My pastor refused to marry us saying we had too many strikes against us and we had others in our family saying it would never last and it was a mistake.
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Jenny
7/27/2017 08:05:53 am
I was married a few months before my nineteenth birthday. We probably we're too young, naive, etc., etc., but none of that has to matter. This year is our fifteenth anniversary! We joke that in many ways we finished growing up together, raising each other. It was amazing to have those years together and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
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Emma Matter
7/27/2017 08:11:31 am
It's awesome to hear all these stories of successful relationships that started it young. My fiancé is in the Marine Corps and we'll be married in a year. We both just turned nineteen and we want to wait until he's about of training before we get into all that. Does it worry me? Yes! Is it scary? Ohh yea! But reading this story and all the comments, it makes me realize that anything can be made possible no matter what anyone says. Thank you so much for sharing all of your experiences! Makes me not worry so much about all the negative comments I've received. Thanks again!!
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Alyssa
7/27/2017 08:17:16 am
THANK YOU!!!! I am engaged and 19 years old planning a wedding. I will have a few month being 20 by my wedding day and have faced these struggles. Luckily, both sets of parents are rooting for us, but other people, who are very close to us, have not been. I have been told that being excited for the good parts of marriage, such as waking up next to my husband or cooking dinner together, means that I am not ready for what marriage really is. I am by no means perfect, which means that I am by no means going to be the perfect wife, but as you said so perfectly, I am so excited and ready to learn.
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Angie Webber
7/27/2017 08:25:32 am
I married at the age of 18. We celebrated 30 years of marriage this year. It has not been easy but it has been worth fighting for. We have raised 5 kids together and as of now have 5 grandkids. I have no regrets. I wish you both all the happiness in the world. Best of luck.
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My husband and I have been married for 51 years. We knew each other just one month before w got married. He was going off to the Army and in between his boot camp and next assignment we got married. Yes we have had our share of ups and downs but we always worked them out. Sometimes it may be hard to say or to hear from the person who loves you but it will make your marriage stronger. Our love for each other is stronger today because we listen to each other.
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Becky
7/27/2017 08:48:29 am
I was married at 16, July 24, 1987. I just celebrated my 30th Anniversary. Those who are judging will be married multiple times before finding happiness.
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My husband and I just celebrated our 38th anniversary. I was nineteen, he was 23 when we married. We had two sons, and now have four grandchildren. Our marriage commitment was made before God, and we went in never considering divorce as an option. Patience and forgiveness for each other, and never going to bed angry have helped us along the way.
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Jackie
7/27/2017 09:56:24 am
I was married 2 weeks after turning 19. My husband one month after turning 19. We are 12 days apart... that was in 1987. We just celebrated our 28th anniversary! We still love each other as much as we did that day!
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Theresa
7/27/2017 10:06:11 am
I got married to my high school sweetheart and I was 19 he was 20 and we have been together for almost 30 years and we have 4 boys. Marriage is a team, both husband and wife need to give it a 100% all the time.
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Susan Stewart
7/27/2017 10:23:17 am
I married my first (and only) boyfriend at age 19. No regrets! Nine children and 19 (and counting) grandchildren, and 45 years of wedded (mostly) bliss... we have seen it all! Ups and downs and ins and outs. Financial disasters and successes. Rebellious children who turn around and make you so proud it hurts. Why waste your youth on singleness? Marriage and family is the greatest adventure in life! Go for it. Cling to the wisdom you have expressed in this post (COMMITMENT is EVERYTHING! When things get bad - even REALLY bad, just hang on. It gets better!) and keep on writing about it. You'll be great!
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Cindy
7/27/2017 10:27:12 am
My husband & I were high school sweethearts. I did break up with him for a year but, that was for me to grieve my grandfather's passing and to get my head on straight. In that year I made mistakes and I wouldn't take it back because I wouldn't be who I am now without them. After a year we get back together. We are still madly in love with each other. (It was also part of my mourning process. Realizing I screwed up with him & never should have broken up with him.). We knew going back into our relationship that it was for keeps. We were unofficially engaged with only our friends knowing. Our parents would have tried to prevent it except his mother. For Christmas, she gave me her wedding band set from when she & my husband's father had been married. 6 weeks later we find out we are pregnant. Of course now, in our parents eyes, we HAVE to get married! At our wedding , my now new husband & I could see the doubt in our family's eyes on how long we will last. I'm here to say, after watching both of our parents, marry & divorce several times, we are still together after 23 years!
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Stacy
7/27/2017 10:35:40 am
My husband and I were both 18 and we just celebrated our 18th anniversary. We had only been dating about 2 months when he proposed to me at 17. We had 3 more months until our 18th birthdays so we waited until then to marry. Don't let them get you down. If it is what makes you happy then that's what matters. Hard work, Love, Trust and Dedication to each other is what will see you through. Remember to keep the communication flowing. Communication is a key factor in relationships working as well as trust. Good luck in the future.
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Sharon
7/27/2017 10:40:09 am
Congratulations on your marriage. Notice, I did not say wedding. My only prayer for you is that your husband feels as strongly and is as committed to you and your marriage as you are. I pray that neither of you will become complacent or bored with each other. I pray for the two of you a long life together. Jut remember - NO ONE but God Himself should EVER come between you. Your parents, your friends NOR your children should ever come before your spouse. These are the words I said to my own daughter about 3 weeks ago just before she got married. She's 20 and I'm happy for her and you and for all the others taking this step. :-)
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Cheyanne
7/27/2017 10:40:31 am
Me and my husband got married when we were each just 19 years old and we had our problems but everyone does but now we are so in sync with each other it's like always having my best friend with me and I dont regret getting married young because we both knew that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together so why wait now we are 23 and still happily married
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Jean
7/27/2017 10:47:46 am
I applaud your honesty and agree that you need to follow your heart so long as neither of you is dependent upon the other for living expenses. I assume both of you are around the same age, I know of another completely different different situation where the couple's ages are over 25 years apart that is a hard relationship to support. I cannot say that there is a stable start there, I wish you all the happiness you deserve,
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Sonja Mullin
7/27/2017 11:16:35 am
I was married 4 months after I turned 17. My mom was 18 & my sister was 18. My daughter 20. What people don't realize is most in this world live like they are married but just without the commitment. Sleeping together, living together even having children BEFORE they are married, so don't let others criticize you for being courageous and moral. Starting your marriage off with true commitment is the best start and one that will help you through the rocky times. I was ridiculed and even some did not attend my wedding. 17 is young but I was as mature as a 17 year old could be. The fact is no one can really be ready for marriage because you've never been married to one another! AlwaOf course that would be a challenge at any age.
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Michelle
7/27/2017 11:19:50 am
My husband and I got married 2 months after we graduated high school. We were both 18. In 2 weeks we will be celebrating our 20th anniversary!!! I am so happy and so excited!!!!
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Kim E.
7/27/2017 11:27:22 am
My sister married the love of her live 2 weeks before she turned 19. This year they celebrate 38 years of marriage. Their love story is one I tell people when they need hope. Your post was beautifully written - and very wise.
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sandy
7/27/2017 11:28:57 am
I married my husband of 33 years when I was 17, one month before my high school graduation. I heard the same comments about being pregnant and too young also. The comments died down when a year passed and no baby came. We now have 2 grown children and 3 grandchildren. I never let anyone comments bother me. You and you alone know when the love is strong enough to endure time. I hope you have a long and prosperous life together!
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Cesechle
7/27/2017 11:32:47 am
My husband and I have been together since we were 15. He wanted to propose when we were both 19, his mother made him wait to until we were 20/21. We wanted to marry that next year and our parents made us wait until we were at least 24 because we were "too young" in their eyes. Boy did we prove them wrong. We were each settled in successful careers by the time we were 22 and we bought our first house at 23 years old. We love each other more every day. If your love is true and you commit each day to your spouse and are dedicated to working through obstacles as a team, age does not matter. I married my best friend and now we are both 27, happily married with a home and a family. Best wishes to all of you who are young and in love!
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Missy
7/27/2017 12:24:49 pm
Oh, how I could have written this 26 years ago! I was 19 and my husband was 21. I heard many of the same negative comments from others. You have the right idea, knowing if won't be easy (because getting married at any age is not easy) but that your love is worth the work. Loving someone is not just a feeling (as you seem to realize), but it's also a CHOICE to keep working at your relationship, to grow with each other as you grow older, and to know that you have each other by your side each step of the way. :) --I wish you and your husband a marriage to last a lifetime. And while it won't always be easy, always stop to remember why you fell in love in the first place.
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I met my husband at 19 we courted for 78 days and then got married, it has been 27 years this November. I still love my guy with all my heart. When you marry young you grow together if you are both committed. You are not set in YOUR ways you are more able to be flexible and become ONE. Marriage is hard work and it is worth the effort. Bless you for sharing this testimony.
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Aaron Lennon
7/27/2017 01:05:46 pm
I was 20 by a few months and my wife was 19. That was over 18 years ago. :)
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Janelle Lewis
7/27/2017 01:31:52 pm
This is great to hear because I'm 17 and I just got married to my husband who is 19! It was magical and regardless of all the people who said "she's just pregnant that's why" or "she's only in it for the money". It hurts tramendously but I had family support. And I was happy for the first time in a while. He was my true love at first site and I'm proud to hear more people are taking marriage on at a young age! I'm proud of you for ignoring all the negative feedback. Marriage young like my grandma said is just an opportunity to grow and learn with the love of your life by your side. You grow so much together and that's better than alone. You just have to get past the negative words people give out.
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Cindy
7/27/2017 01:33:01 pm
Got married at 18, husband 19, and this year will be our 44th anniversary!
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Lisa
7/27/2017 02:40:26 pm
I was 17 & he was 18. We dated for 2 years before getting married (high school sweethearts) and we are 32 years strong and even more in love today than we were when we got married. Lots of growing, learning, struggling and loving but I wouldn't trade it for the world.
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Ashley
7/27/2017 02:42:38 pm
This is so beautifully written. I got married at 20 years old. Lots of people looked down on it. So many of the same phrases whispered and thought to be unheard. We've certainly been through hell and back together. The death of loved ones, his diagnosis of a rare and awful autoimmune disease. My recent diagnosis of a brain tumor. The murder of my mom. If anything, no matter how horrible the world has been to us, we've made it through. We've come out the other side of it all, stronger than ever. It's now 8 years strong and I still find myself falling in love with his quirks and imperfections every single day. Thanks for sharing your story, I love hearing about something good in today's bad world <3
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Lorie
7/27/2017 02:49:28 pm
Turned 19, five weeks after getting married. That was 35 years ago!
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Heidi
7/27/2017 02:53:09 pm
I know these feelings all to well. I was also 19 when we got married. When you know that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone why would you wait for a socially acceptable age to marry? Who's to say what a socially acceptable age is anyway! 23 years later and I couldn't be happier to be married to my best friend. I look forward to growing old with him and experiencing all stages life together! Best wishes and God Bless you and your journey together.
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Cyndi
7/27/2017 03:44:48 pm
I was married at 19 as well and heard the same comments. I'm so happy to say that was 22 years ago and 3 beautiful children later (kids started 2 years into the marriage). Were there hard times? Yes, there was, but doesn't any marriage have bumps?? Stay strong and cling to each other and love your best friend thru thick and thin! Congrats!❤
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Chelsea
7/27/2017 04:04:16 pm
Definition of TRUE LOVE: loving and giving respect to the other person even when they don't 'deserve' it. (ie, they are being unlovable and unrespectable) We all want this even when we are having those moments ourselves. (Married at age 20, still married 23 years and 4 children later)💕
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Diana
7/27/2017 04:08:07 pm
My husband and I met in the 3rd grade. He went home from school and told his Mom "I met the girl I'm gonna marry". I guess he really meant it. We've been married 51 years have two sons and three grown grandchildren. Wouldn't change a thing, still in love. ❤️
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Marie
7/27/2017 04:15:16 pm
Met my husband at 16 in Sept. '75, got married in June '76 - had a child in Sept. '76 (do the math) - STILL MARRIED! Hard work, lots of great times, lots of bad times. Life no matter who you spend it with has it challenges - you have to decide what drew you together in the first place; that should be enough to fight for! We also heard "It will NEVER last, especially since I was pregnant and didn't know him for very long" AHHHH nay sayers - In Your FACE!
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shawna sarazen
7/27/2017 04:33:09 pm
I just wanted to say that your right about everything you said in your story. When me and my husband planned to get married we had no support by his family what so ever. They kept telling us your rushing into marriage you guys aren't gonna make it and so on and so forth. we stayed strong and we did what we wanted to do and that exactly was to get married. No it wasn't because we have a one year old together it's because we love each other for who we are. So i just wanted to say i agree with you a hundred percent on what you said.
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Sherry
7/27/2017 04:37:08 pm
I married at 18 on July 24, 1971. I just posted a wedding pic on Facebook with this message: "This was 46 years ago. I'm so grateful to God for keeping us together all these years! It's a rare thing these days, isn't it? It's so worth persevering through the difficult times for the joy of growing old with someone who remembers almost everything about your adult life - who knew and loved your dear parents and stood by you and grieved their loss with you, who knew every pet you ever owned, every apartment and house you ever lived in, who has the same memories of all the trips, who was there when your children were born and remembers every cute or horrendous thing they ever did. Someone who walked with you through every day of all that, the good and the bad. SO. WORTH. IT!"
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Jo
7/27/2017 04:44:07 pm
My husband and I married young and carried the burden of other people's judgments, putting too much weight into them. Eventually they wore us down and made us doubt ourselves and our marriage. My hope is that you won't let the unnecessary judgment of others get to you and affect you the way they did to me. There will always be people trying to tell you how to live your life but no one makes them more qualified than you are at making the right choices. I wish you the best.
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Jo
7/27/2017 04:50:28 pm
One more thing to add, people warned us that we would change and be different people in just 5 or 10 years. I would hope that all people would be constantly changing for the better and learning new things. I would hope that's not just something that happens in a person's twenties, because we'll never be perfect and never know it all. So that argument is stupid to me. With this argument, it would never be a safe time to get married because people are always learning and changing.
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Kendra Dube
7/27/2017 04:45:40 pm
Stay strong. I got married at 20 and I'm still hearing comments about how we are "too young". Forget the haters. They are jealous that it took them 30 years to find what you have at 18. When you meet the one God created for you to love there is no "too young" as long as it's right for you. I have loved getting to grow up with my husband. It's been a year since we got married and it was the best decision of our lives. He changed my life and continues to everyday. Getting married young allows you to grow together as a couple and grow together with God and that's truly beautiful!
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Victoria Hinds
7/27/2017 05:07:45 pm
I am 19 years old and just engaged this summer. This post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much for this heartfelt post. I needed this and I am so sincerely appreciate of what you have said and of all the wonderful comments others have left. Thank you!
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Aaron Lennon
7/27/2017 09:00:02 pm
Hold strong you two but make no mistake, you will change a lot in 10 years. The changes will creep up on you and when you wake up and everything is different remember this post and kiss and laugh.
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Yedi
7/27/2017 05:20:10 pm
Beautiful 🙏🏽 Do not listen to them, I married my high school sweetheart while in high school still! I was one month into my 18th birthday and he was 19. We celebrated our 21st year wedding anniversary in May and we are still so in love. Yes, there are hard times but the happy times are always far more then the hard and you grow and work together to get thru things. I wish you the best and enjoy each other.
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Kim
7/27/2017 05:52:46 pm
I got married at 17 .... I've been married 32 years! I got the same comments! We had been married 4 years before we had our first baby, so that was a very long pregnancy 😂! May God bless you both with a long life together.
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Ashley
7/27/2017 06:04:05 pm
Wow Abbey! I just found this on my Facebook news feed and this is so true. I'm not knocking young adults getting married I'm 23 I thought I had the one of my dreams at 19 turns out I didn't due to him cheating but now 23yrs old I have the man of my dreams he's 21 and he's been with me through the roughest times and vise versa he's my rock and I'm his everyone told us we wouldn't make it for a year it's funny because we've been dating for three years and it's not perfect but we've tried to fix issues but he is the man for me I'm not married but I do talk to married couples and they said its the best thing that happened to them
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Karen
7/27/2017 06:39:03 pm
I was married on my 19th birthday!!! 37 years ago:) our journey together has been sweet and wonderful. Did we have arguments... oh yes we were growing up together, but we had so much fun. We laughed and cried and had major blow ups but making up was always better. We never stayed mad to long and when he walks in a room to this day my heart still beats fast! I am so glad I married him when I did. You won't regret it. Just keep talking and laughing together!! I wish you the best years ever😊
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Jan
7/27/2017 06:48:57 pm
Idk why ppl are criticizing this young couple. If we all looked back into our family history I bet we would find several generations that was married much younger than this couple. I wish this couple all the best in life.
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Sarah
7/27/2017 06:53:55 pm
Good luck to the both of you and the many years to come..... No one thought my husband and i would make it and were going on are 10 anniversary next year with love all is possible
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Michelle
7/27/2017 07:01:41 pm
Don't let other people bother you! Everyone said our relationship would never last either. We got engaged when I was 15 and he was 17. He went into the Air Force after school then we got married. I was 18 and he was 19. This year will be our 25 th anniversary. Our son is 22. Last week at dinner , our next door neighbor gave us the nicest compliment. He told us that we were the most in love couple he thinks he has seen in a long time. I hope we never loose that !
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We got married 3 weeks before my 19th birthday and almost 2 weeks after my husband's 23rd birthday. We have 5 children. We had our first child when I was 22 and our last when I was 44. Some said my husband was robbing the cradle but we have had more criticism for having kids in our 40's than we did for marrying young. We have been happily married for 27 years. Do what God is calling you to do even if it doesn't fit the culture around you and you will be blessed.
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Julie
7/27/2017 08:57:21 pm
Such a great article. My daughter's in the same boat. Just married 11 days ago and she's 19. The only people very supportive are those that know her well. It is frowned upon in our society but as you can see from all these comments, people make it through. We started dating at 16 and 17 and dated four years then got married at 20/21. 26 years later with 5 kids and 2 grandkids, I regret nothing. Good for you!!
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Tami Allen
7/27/2017 09:04:00 pm
I love everything about this post! I too was a 19 year old bride, and my husband was 21. We grew up together, and although there were hard times, problems, and challenges, we have been married now for 25 years. I know I made the right decision. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
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Chloe
7/27/2017 09:05:15 pm
If I found the love of my life right now (19yr old) I'd marry them in a heart beat. Wish the two of you the best of luck. I hope I find my soulmate soon.
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Lauren
7/27/2017 09:06:17 pm
I'm so glad someone finally said it! I got married at 18 and let me tell you, nearly everyone has tried to make my husband and I's life difficult just because they want to prove that we can't possibly make it work. But we can! It's so nice to have people out there that I can relate to!
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Lynn
7/27/2017 09:25:09 pm
So encouraging! My hubby and I met in 2008, didn't start dating until 2015, and were married in July of 2015, a few months after my 18th birthday. I got a LOT of funny looks and lost many 'friends' because they thought I was throwing my life away. Two years, three moves and one fur baby later, we are stronger than ever and still learning to love eachother, and the best part is I get to finish growing up with my best friend! People are so discouraging and are too eager to tear eachother down, but we should be celebrating love and commitment!
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Ashlee Lynn
7/27/2017 10:44:52 pm
I really needed this right now! I am 21 almost 22 years old and me and my Fiancé are getting married next week! I get so much hate from everyone including my parents about being so young! I know I need to be strong about it which most of the time I am but when I hear my mom tell me we are too young it breaks my heart! But anyways I really needed this and reading it helped me a lot
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Love your post !! I'm also kinda doing a mini marriage blog on my instagram about being young and married; those naysayers are definitely everywhere so it's nice to see other young couples embracing marriage instead of being afraid of it. All the best to you and your man :)
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Ruth
7/28/2017 05:07:40 am
You soumd to me like you are ready.. I just told someone the other day I need to go to a wedding, to be reminded that love alone is enough ❤️ Life is complicated enough, dont let anyone steal your thunder. Prive them all wrong
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7/28/2017 05:11:36 am
Dear sweet bride,
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kim
7/28/2017 05:21:49 am
Congrats to you!! I was also a 19 year old bride..go with your heart.. i did and im still married to my love ..28 years later!! Best wishes and much happiness to you both in your future..the secret is to always communicate .. be there for each other and be a team..thats what makes a strong friendship/marriage:)
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Kayla
7/28/2017 06:31:33 am
My husband and I were married when we were both 18 years of age. In August, we will celebrate our 41st anniversary. It is not about age, it is about how well you can manage the challenges of life. As long as you know the road will not always be smooth and that you will have to work harder at marriage than anything else in life, you will be happy. Good Luck!
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Megan M
7/28/2017 07:20:57 am
Hi, I love how you're being bold about this and standing firm in who you know yourself to be. I'm planning to get married next year at age 20 and those comments have already started coming, but I know that God wants me to marry my boyfriend and that through pursuing Jesus that we can push through and have an amazing marriage honoring to the Lord!
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Wendy
7/28/2017 08:25:20 am
My husband and i got married when he was 17 i was 20 we have been married almost 22 years now...we had our fair share of yall wont make it your to young.. did we listen nope we have had our fair share of problems but we worked itnout and are stronger everyday. Love, compassion, faith, loyalty, trust, and alot of hard work is what makes a marriage work.
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Melanie
7/28/2017 09:27:56 am
Hubby and I were 19 when we got married. It's been 21 years and we're expecting our tenth child. I'd say our marriage is a pretty darn good one, too. Gotta work hard at something in life, might as well work hard at family and relationships. That is the most fulfilling kind of work.
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Jene
7/28/2017 09:33:38 am
Married at 19... just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary in March 2017... I'd do it all over again with a few changes... hind sight is 20/20 after all. :)
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Gene Redd
7/28/2017 09:41:27 am
I turned 16 and my husband turned 17 a month after we got married in 1973. We we're married for time and all eternity in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Billings Montana Temple in 1999. We have had some rough times as most everyone does, but we would be lost without each other.
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Ruth Ochoa
7/28/2017 10:21:59 am
I was 16 yrs old and still in high school and my husband was out of high school and 22 yrs old when we got married. We had alot of friends,family,acquaintances tell us we were making the biggest mistake of our life. No I was not pregnant yet got pregnant 3 months after we got married though. It definitely has not been all peaches and cream but we really love each other so we have been able to over come all the obstacles that have been thrown at us. We have 4 amazing children no biological grandkids yet but we do have 5 step granddaughters. Our oldest son just turned 21 yrs old and he's in the Army he is married and his wife had 5 girls. Our second son will soon be 20 yrs old he is on his second year of college not legally married yet but has been with his girlfriend for 5 yrs and he has moved in with his girlfriend and her parents. She just graduated and will be starting her first year of college this coming August they will be attending the same college. Our only girl our daughter is 18 yrs old and will be graduating from high school in May 2018 and will be going into the military also into the Army. Our last son is only 15 yrs old and in high school. My husband has worked up to 2 jobs through our our marriage to support our family with no help from no one. My family did not like him at all and his family did not like me at all and after being married for 8 years I was diagnosed with Lupus and have had many health complications since then and many hospital stays so he had to raise our children basically on his own while holding down a full time job and caring for me in the hospital. It hasn't been easy by far but at the end LOVE conquers all if you really love each other and want to be together you both will make it work and over come whatever obstacle comes your way. Don't listen to all the negative comments from irrelevant people only you two count in this.I'm now going on 38 yrs old next month and my husband just turned 44 yrs old in April. We will be married for 22 yrs this September 8th and together it's been 23 yrs this past February. Our life and marriage is still going strong and I love him just as much as I did when I married him and he still gives me butterflies. I wish you the best in your marriage and many many years together❤
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Melissa
7/28/2017 12:33:13 pm
So very well said!!! I was that 19 year old bride in 1987 and our wedding plans elicited the very same responses. It was made even worse by the fact that I was marrying a sailor who had been my pen pal for 6 months and I'd seen literally over 4 weekends prior to saying, "I do." That 19 year old bride and her sailor husband (now USN Retired) just celebrated their 30th anniversary in May alongside 4 grown children, their spouses and 6 incredible grand children! We renewed our vows then, and meant it as much as when said them the first time on May 2, 1987. May God richly bless you and your husband!!!
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Elizabeth White
7/28/2017 12:39:38 pm
Thank you SO much for this. I just turned 19 and am getting married in November. I've had a really difficult time receiving negative comments, not only from strangers, but from close friends and even family members. In the things people say to me and how they treat my situation, I can tell they think I'm a naive little girl, and I so appreciate you sharing your experience for me to relate to. Thank you for reminding me that the things people say to me DO NOT matter.
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Sharon Aleszczyk
7/28/2017 01:38:14 pm
I was a young bride too at 19. I'm married 35 years on 7/30/1982. Your story says it all stay strong and true to one another weather the storm all worth it. Life is a beautiful thing.
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Trish
7/28/2017 02:36:25 pm
You have much more wisdom than some of the people around you. Keep living your life on your own terms.
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Marissa
7/28/2017 06:06:26 pm
I got married when I was nineteen and have now been married for 13 years. There are many challenges that will come your way, but if you stay strong as a team, you can overcome them. Don't keep score, forgive and truly forget, it's not about being a 50/50 relationship it's 100/100, and over all else love each other unconditionally. Even when it's hard, don't give up on each other. Be each others best friend.
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Irma
7/28/2017 06:14:32 pm
I was a 19 year old bride and we just celebrated 21 years of marriage. I wish you many years of happiness.
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Jami
7/28/2017 08:03:26 pm
I was 17 almost 18 when I married my husband he was 25 my parents signed for us to get license and we have been married ever since this Past April was our 27th anniversary. And you are right you have to keep growing together or you grow apart. We have had our share of ups and downs thru the years but we love each other enough to not want to give up because it's easier. We stuck it out and my husband is my best friend, husband & lover! People said we wouldn't make it and also asked if I was pregnant which I wasn't. So good for you!
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Dawn Loduha
7/28/2017 09:24:26 pm
Twenty and one half years ago I was 20, and getting married.. in Denmark,,, with no family around (my soon to be husband was in the military and we met through friends and letters from across the globe. Everyone - seriously EVERYONE said it would never last. I met his parents while 6 months pregnant and for 5 years his parents thought the pregnancy was why we got married (it was not, we were married 7 months before I got pregnant. We were told we were too young, we didn't know enough about life, love or marriage, that we were making a rash decision. Most of these comments came from those with failed marriages. Over 20 years later, I couldn't imagine going through life with anyone else. He is may love, my best friend and my forever. Love is love... at 18, 30, 50 or 70.
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My husband and I got married at 18, come Dec 28, 2017 we will celebrate our 38th wedding anniversary (in May our 40th as a couple). Our parents told us we wouldn't last 6 months...we've been married longer than any of them have been, to any of their multiple spouses.
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Laura
7/29/2017 03:27:52 am
I met my soulmate when I was 19 and he was 24. It was love at first sight. We had a son just 2 years into our marriage. I got to spend 16 years with the love of my life before he passed away last year. It never matters what anyone else says, always follow your heart.
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Jaimee
7/29/2017 07:16:30 am
My husband of 28 years and I were married the year we turned 20. He is my best friend, God brought the man he wanted me to marry into my life at 19. We have 4 grown children and now 2 granddaughters. Life has been a great roller coaster ride and God willing we will have many more. I love you forever Christopher.
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Lee
7/29/2017 07:18:47 am
Good luck to both of you . We were both 18 when we got married in 1964 and in August this year we are celebrating our 53 rd Anniversary. We have twin boys and a daughter; 4 Granddaughters and 1 Grand son. So it is possible and it's what you do with your marriage. I wish you all the luck in the world.
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Jasmine
7/29/2017 01:35:56 pm
My sister got married at 19, and so did my mom.
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YAY!! That's the way to enter this union, lady! I was a "young" 25 yr old, and went at this big scary commitment with both excitement and solemnity like you. Our marriage becomes an adult this year, and I finally think we're grown up enough to take it out for drinks! :D
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Kimberly Ramsburg
7/29/2017 04:37:53 pm
Hi - I met my husband just after graduating from high school. I knew the day I met him that he was the one I was going to marry. I was 20 when we were married, he was twenty three. We worked for everything we had, and developed a wonderful faith in God over the years. We had our first child when I was 22, second when I was 25. 31 years later, we are still happily married. May God bless you. It's not all easy, but worth every minute of it!!
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April Whalen
7/29/2017 08:18:14 pm
I absolutely love this! I was 18 and my husband was 19 when we walked down the aisle. We are still married and will celebrate our 16th wedding anniversary this December. To say it has been easy, would be a complete lie. We have been through HELL and back. We have talked divorce. But our love for each other has conquered all. Congratulations on your marriage.
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Melissa
7/29/2017 11:38:06 pm
I married the love of my life when I was 18 and that was 27 years ago! You have to want to make it work! It has to be cultivated to grow, just like gardens do! Congratulations! God be with you both on this journey through life!
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I could tell you about my 1st marriage at 18 (pregnant) and how I divorced him at 19 when he began to be physically abusive to our 3 month old daughter after crying, BEGGING he wanted to be a dad. I could dwell on my 2nd marriage at 22 to a man completely opposite my 1st husband. If my 1st husband was fire, my 2nd was dry ice. They both BURN- just in different ways. I raised 3 kids, alone, for 16 years. My oldest daughter swore she'd never be like me & yet is 18 & married. To her best friends EX. Who she dated for 6 WEEKS before they tried to get me to agree to a marriage. I said HELL NO. She "claims" to have "known" him for 4 years, but you don't KNOW someone who attends a different high school & you've not been involved with long! I was FURIOUS his mother didn't inform me he was proposing, so that at least I could BE THERE. He, his mother, his aunt, have all disrespected me. Am I scared for her? Of COURSE! I'm terrified! Her "father" was a terrible example & my choice in men, not wise. She lept before she even really LOOKED. Her high school sweetheart of 3 years was a terrific guy. She began dating her "husband" about 2 weeks after their breakup. I love my kids, Fiercely & Passionately, I just wish they would Listen & TRY to learn a BIT about life & love & commitment before jumping into the deep end. I'm happy for those it worked out for. I wasn't 1 of them. I don't believe she will be either- & I wish I could spare her that pain.
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Stephanie Morgan
7/30/2017 06:25:52 am
I was married 3 months after I turned 18, my younger sister was 19 when she married, and my older sister was 20. We are all still married to our sweethearts. It's been 21 meaningful years for me!! I don't think success in marriage is about whether a woman marries at 18 or 27, it has everything to do with how the couple views marriage. It's about commitment, hard work, virtue, forgiveness, faith, and self-less love.
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Melisssa
7/30/2017 06:38:11 am
I was married at 17, I remember no one being happy for us . We've been together since we turned 15! Now this year will be our 24th anniversary we raised three children 20, 22, and 24 they all graduated high school, one graduated college so fair and is engaged . The other two are in school and my 20 year old hasn't even started dating yet so everyone's different.
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Kate
7/30/2017 02:47:54 pm
I was 19 when I got engaged, barely 22 and still in college when we got married- while I acknowledge that most 19year olds aren't mature enough to be married, I married the right man at what was the right time for me! It has been 9 years this week and people no longer question our choice, but there were a lot of years of reminding people that they are on the outside of my relationship so they can't really make an informed judgement on it. When we were engaged my mother in law even said that we shouldn't get married (already lived together and shared a bank account), while she didn't appreciate my telling her that it wasn't up for debate I would do it the exact same if I could do it over again. Congratulations and remember that you will be growing up together and growing up is more difficult than marriage, so if you can hang on through those first years you will be golden!
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Savannah Schanze
7/30/2017 08:53:28 pm
You're really awesome, thank you for being an inspiration, especially to many of my friends. Ignore the mean comments some people posted, they are all wrong.
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7/30/2017 09:18:16 pm
Hang in there! My husband and I were both 19 and were married for 39 years until his passing. I think young people try to stretch out their youth and do not want to grow up. I applaud you for wanting to live in an adult world with adult responsibilities. I believe marrying young is best for many, many reasons and I will not go into them here. But, I wish you well, and pray you have many years together. I own a wedding magazine, Weddings By Wendy Rose, and I would love to use part of your blog for an article at some point. My email is attached to this contact info. Just let me know. Be blessed.
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Christina
7/30/2017 09:21:11 pm
I got married two months before I turned 19. People thought I was stupid and asked "how do you even know you love him. You're too young to know what true love is." We have now been married 15 years and have 4 children and are still in love as we were back then if not even more now. I wouldn't change a thing about getting married young.
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Thank you for sharing your heart, Abbey! I, too, was 19 (and all of those descriptive words... and then some... that you used to describe yourself!) when I married my husband. I don't recall hearing all of those particular whispers, but felt as though I was in a battle to "Show them all!" that I was going to make this happen and I was going to make it work! Oh, goodness... what a ride it has been! But, nearly 37 years later, living in 3 different countries, 5 grown children, 2 lovely daughters-in-law and another to join us in a few months, 6 grandbabies (all 5 and under!) and a 7th on the way..., I wouldn't trade it for the world!!
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Shaylee Kellar
7/31/2017 02:00:51 pm
I eloped on my 18th BD. We went together a year beforehand. Marriage lasted five years and three sons later. He left me when our sons were 1,2,3. He left me/us for a co-worker. He remarried her 10 days after our divorce. I remarried 11years later. Divorced him for infidelity. Been divorced since '94. NEVEF AGAIN! GOD BLESS YOU BOTH ALWAYS!
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Shannon
7/31/2017 07:41:06 pm
We got married at 17. Been together going on 14 years there is nothing more rewarding than growing up together . No one in this world will ever know me the way he does. Love commitment and will is enough. We have survived longer than some of the people who told us we were too young. Stay encouraged, you can do it!!
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Anna
7/31/2017 08:41:58 pm
Thank you, I really needed this. I'm 19 years old and getting married. My dentist today asked me "are you sure you are ready." His parent even asked me that too and said "it's not going to be easy. I hope you know." As you said you'll never really be ready for such a life changing thing. But this is the next step I want to take in my life. And when you find the one you know. Thank you for this beautiful article. I have it saved because I read it quite often. Because I have come home crying and upset from what people have said. People think I'm too young and stupid. Especially since my fiancé is almost 25 years old.which seems like a big gap now but 20-30+ years from now won't even matter. Thank you so much for this. I really needed this. And hope you have a happy marriage and life
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Ginny
8/11/2017 05:40:55 am
You're right! That age gap won't matter, commitment does. Make your own success story!
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Darlene
7/31/2017 08:43:17 pm
I received all the same negative comments about marrying just before my 19th birthday. Those comments were mostly from men with marriage issues.
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Annie
8/1/2017 07:46:09 am
I haven't read all of the comments, but i read your story !
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Zm
8/1/2017 07:51:40 am
How nice..Just trust urself and ur love,and I wish you many years in health and love..
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Wow ,same kind of situation 😓Well people will freak if they hear me and my boyfriend is alrady saving up for a wedding ...when im 21(im now 19), everone will also have bad comments, not because of him but the age ,aspecialy my family , you are not alone
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Kylie Davidson
8/1/2017 11:13:36 am
This is so beautiful. I myself got married right after I turned 19. I just had my 1 year anniversary on July 31, and I am now 20 years old. I got teased about it at times too. A couple people thought i was pregnant or something. I started dating him at 16, and I just knew that God wanted me to marry this man. The first year is truly one of the hardest, because of learning, making transitions from what you use to know before, making mistakes and growing from the past. It has been so worth it. even the times when i thought it could have been a mistake to be married so young. It has shaped who I am in so many good ways. Even at such a young age, you can just know what is right. Even getting married at 19 ;) You are not alone at all, there are a lot of people I know who got married young. A lot of people will not respect it. But a lot of people do respect it. So you pray for the one's that don't understand and grow with the one's who do understand. Never let yourself forget that you are NOT alone.
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Go! Love. Learn. Mess up and fall into back to him again and again with kisses and grace. Spend time with older couples who inspire you. Ask for their advice and actually take it. Drown out a world full of pain and defensiveness by living a life unbridled, overflowing with gratitude and adventure. Bask in the freedom of every anniversary celebrated without the emotional baggage and regret that comes from "playing the field." Never give up and most of all, laugh. And as the years take their toll and you both become seasoned veterans of this thing called marriage, be proud of what you've done--of what God's done for both of you. May His blessings never cease to amaze you, may His creation catch your breath at the very sight of its beauty, and may every step of your journey happen according to His perfect timing. Congratulations and warmest regards.
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Rosa michel
8/3/2017 07:06:02 am
Girl, people will always talk. Im glad you guys followed your heart. My husband and I got married very young as well, I was 17 and he was 18. 21 years later we're still together. It was the best choice I have ever made. I now have 2 kids in college and our friends always comment how young we still look for haveing kids in college 😉. I'm so happy for you guys and positive you'll have a bright future.
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What a beautiful post. . .and love! I married my husband when we were both 19. Young, in love, and with hearts full of dreams that included each other. He just turned 60 and I will soon. 41 years. Would I do it the same way? Yes! We grew up and grew our marriage together. Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey!
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Alicia Nan
8/3/2017 10:13:25 pm
Sweetheart you follow your heart and do what is best for you, there is no timeline on falling in love they is no one who can dictate what is the right time to get married. Love is a feeling that is less expressed in our generation because of the disease called technology the world is scared to open their hearts and feel that wonderful emotion called love. Society today has grown a thick skin to falling in love but only the brave and pure hearts can love, be in love and experience love in a million ways with the same person. Do not need to listen to people and their comments people will say things whether or not you did any of them, give the world your love story to talk about. Back in time there were so many young brides And they built families and become the tower and strength for their husbands and who is there to say you wouldn't be the same, put your mind heart and soul into your marriage and you will contour and over come all the hurdles. Remember life is a struggle and marriage is too but if you ever came to a cross road always remember the one reason you got married.... LOVE fall in love and live in LOVE. god will forever bless your marriage.
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Katy negaard
8/4/2017 02:38:58 pm
I love this I have had so much crap given to me. I believe age is just a number and if you find the love of your life at a young age you have a longer time to love and grow with them. You have more time to have a good time with your best friend. Love this
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Bridget
8/6/2017 01:10:36 am
child. I feel bad for your children. Grow the fuck up
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8/6/2017 06:29:42 am
I got married exactly 2 weeks after I turned 20. My husband was also 20. In a month, we will have been married for 44 years. I would never want to be married to anyone else!! ❤️
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Ginny
8/11/2017 05:38:03 am
I love your attitude, Abbey! I was married the week before I turned 21 and no one thought we should get married before we were out of school. Every marriage has to grow together, though! And it's good that you know you have things to learn...that's humility. We've been married 26 years raising three children and are still committed to growing together. Sail on and don't mind the adversity!
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Becky
8/12/2017 06:36:49 am
I married the love of my life 2 weeks after I graduated high school. I was 18 & he was 21. Yes, there were those that were supportive and those that were not. It didn't matter! He had my heart and I knew we were meant to be. We've learned a lot of life's lessons the hard way but we've always had each other's backs. We've been married 17 years now and in that time we've both obtained college degrees, had 2 precious children, bought a place to call home and grown deeper in our love every day! My marriage is one of the things I'm most proud of! Always be your husbands biggest cheer leader & love him even when he doesn't deserve it..lol! Protect your marriage and ask God to bless it! You will be thankful for the precious memories you make in this beautiful life together!
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You're correct. It is nobody else's business what marital decisions you make. And I am constantly baffled by the number of people who think they have the right to vomit unsolicited advice on everyone from brides to be, to the chronically ill, to your family-planning decions. All of that being said, I married my first husband at 18 (he was 23.) The marriage was a distaster from the start and ended in a spectacularly bad fashion five years later. I married my 2nd husband when I was 25 (so was he). 15 years later we have a beautiful little girl whom we love and are training to love Jesus. Certainly there are people who marry quite young and make it work with beautiful marriages (my own grandparents fall into that category.) I think what people who approach you are trying to say (whether they have the right to or not) is that marriage is hard. Harder than anybody can imagine going into it, no matter how old you are. I wonder if these unsolicited advice givers are just concerned that you are starting off with an additional challenge to add to the already long list of marital changes. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders, and I wish you and your husband nothing but the best. Just thought it might be helpful to see the whole thing from a different experience, one where it didn't work out, not to discourage you in ANY way, but rather to give some context to all comments advice. God bless you both and your marriage.
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Abbey
8/14/2017 07:54:18 am
Great article! It's rare I see someone that spells Abbey the same way I do. And what a coincidence that I also got married at 19. My husband and I are high school sweethearts and decided a year after we graduated to tie the knot. We were in love and didn't want to wait until it was socially exceptable by everyone...It was our life. So we got married. We had small wedding(40 people) in my childhood home(very father of the bride I know lol). And 3 kids( all girlsy) and almost 8 years later we are still going strong. No one I would rather be on this journey of life with than him!
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8/31/2017 11:10:23 pm
I love this. My husband and I were married at 18 and didn't take a huge amount of negativity from others for it (guess the world wasn't quite as cynical two decades ago), but my daughter was recently married while still in high school, and they had to endure quite a bit of negativity for it. I've been blogging about some of those experiences.
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Abby
9/2/2017 05:57:41 am
I was a young bride- 20 years old. People made the same assumption that I must be pregnant. They just didn't understand why I would get married so young. My husband and I celebrated 17-years of marriage in July. It's not always easy but when both people are committed, you can make it through the tough times.
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sandra
12/11/2017 06:26:57 pm
I was a young bride also. I got married at 18. everyone said the same thing about me. she's only getting married cause she's pregnant. now these were supposed to be Christians judging me. people that I had known most my life. talk about being hurt. today I'm still married to the same man and it's 26 years later. those people who talked about are now divorced and remarried. so don't worry about what people say or think about you. you love each other doesnt matter what anyone says or thinks about you. you have each other and that's the way it's supposed to be. you never know they might get what's coming to them. karma doesn't discriminate.
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Dusty Wayman-Louthan
12/29/2017 06:34:03 am
I, too, was a 19 year old bride. I heard so many rumors that I was for sure pregnant and that it was the only way that my sweet Aaron and I could ever be married. Unfortunately, two of my brothers have continually told me even to this day (since we’ve been married only 4 months) that I’m for sure going to have a baby by April. They joked about it and even saw me when I should’ve been “showing” and still say those nasty things about me. Even my husbands parents ask us if we are sure that we didn’t do this too young, it’s very disheartening. I would love if people would just not assume that we’re rushing and that we truly do madly, deeply love each other. You know, just everything that you were saying brought me comfort because I did feel like I was alone in this. I mean, I’m sure I realized that I wasn’t but it’s still nice to know someone gets it. So thank you for sharing your beautiful story!
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6/5/2018 07:32:48 pm
I love this. My husband and I were married at 18 and didn't take a huge amount of negativity from others for it (guess the world wasn't quite as cynical two decades ago), but my daughter was recently married while still in high school, and they had to endure quite a bit of negativity for it. I've been blogging about some of those experiences. good
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6/5/2018 07:37:07 pm
Good luck to both of you . We were both 18 when we got married in 1964 and in August this year we are celebrating our 53 rd Anniversary. We have twin boys and a daughter; 4 Granddaughters and 1 Grand son. So it is possible and it's what you do with your marriage. I wish you all the luck in the world. Thank
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6/5/2018 07:39:09 pm
Good I haven't read all of the comments, but i read your story !
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6/5/2018 07:46:37 pm
I needed this. It brought tears to my eyes. I'm obsessed with this story and will probably read it everyday for a while. good
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Theresa Moore
6/19/2018 06:16:47 am
I was 18 years old by just 26 days when I married my husband. In July 2018, we'll celebrate 34 years ❤️
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Jeanette
7/6/2018 02:09:41 pm
We got married young. My husband had just turned 20. We're celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary this month. We have been blessed with 6 children. Life is hard, but we grew together. With the grace of God everything is possible. Don't listen to those who try to put you down. You will rise up.
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Rose
7/13/2018 09:35:29 am
Reading this helps out I’ve heard all the comments about getting married young I’m actually getting married next year, 5 months after we both turn 18. He is going into the U.S. Navy and he is excited to bring me on his journey and he actually sent me this website so I could read it hoping that this would help and it did thank you for sharing your story 👍🏻
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Jackie
7/14/2018 10:44:10 pm
Married at 20 heard so many downers about how we are not going to make it and how stupid I was...but I knew I wanted to be with him only shortly after getting to know him..we are now married 5 years and I am falling for him more every day 💕I'm glad to see something positive on early age marriges
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Denise Stewart
7/15/2018 10:51:24 am
You are wise beyond your years. I believe they key- no matter how old you are, is to pray about it. Cast a fleece before God and ask Him to show you His will in unmistakeable, undeniable ways. Our goal is not to find the one you can live with. The goal is to find the one you can’t live without. I’m convinced that God still does what He’s done with every man He’s created. He looks a him and says, “It is not good for him to be alone. I will make him a Helper.” Then He takes the man’s rib and creates his helper. Your husband is looking for his rib. You are praying for him and preparing for him, until he finds you. When a man finds his rib, he will know it. Once you’ve found the man whose rib you have, the rest is just the icing on the cake- the wedding cake. Decide to honeymoon for the rest of your lives. God made marriage pleasurable for a reason. Work with your husband to try to find out whyHe gave us such a treasure througheachother. I’m praying yofind at least as much pleasure as I have throughmy marriage. If so, you will thank God forever for His gift to us.
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Naomi
7/16/2018 12:45:10 pm
I didn't get to finish reading this yet but I've been married since I was 18 and I'm 20 now and have a 2 1/2 month rainbow baby and a happy life besides military wife duties.
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Aleshia
7/16/2018 04:40:11 pm
I married at 19 and we just celebrated 23 years this past June. I believe there are some things that would have been easier had we waited but I’d do it again in a heartbeat!
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Candace
7/16/2018 09:17:49 pm
Hi Abby! Me and my husband got married at 19 right out of high school and July 24 will be our 19th wedding anniversary so we are a living witness that it works. It hasn’t been easy. We’ve had great times, struggles, stress, but we are best friends and we got thru it together. You just have to have that mind set. We have 2 teenage girls and yes I’m not going to lie, I don’t know if I would want them married that young. It’s hard to find a great hardworking man these days but we have to leave it up to God and let him decide. I truly believe God put us together for a reason when he did. Good Luck on your marriage abs put God first and yourselves before anybody else.
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crystal
7/17/2018 05:12:33 am
Hi Abby... my hubby and i knew each other since grade school.. and were married against my parents wishes.. they didnt feel he was right for me . i came from a middle class family and he was a farm laborers son . but for us we were right for each other .. we raised two beautiful daughters .. yes we had many struggles, our arguments, but we always sat down and talked things out .. but the one thing is we were always there for each other .. and kept our promises to each other... i lost my best friend and partner in 2011 to cancer and there isnt a day that i dont shed a tear or have a happy memory of something we have done together . cherish every moment you have together .. good or bad.. love gently .. hold tight ... make good memories...
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Jilly
7/17/2018 09:14:55 am
I was a 19 year old bride. I was told I was naive, ignorant, that I had not fully lived my life yet. I was told that we’d never make it. I was told to forget about marriagevand live a little.
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Ann Marie
7/17/2018 11:48:45 am
Don't worry about what other people say. No one knows how you feel. People have gotten married after only dating for weeks and some of those marriages last for life. Be happy and the best of luck and love.
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Desire
7/17/2018 12:51:35 pm
I was just as you getting married to a guy 2yrs older then me.... so many peoples said the very samething.
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Crystal Grove
7/18/2018 11:18:59 am
Hi there! I was a nineteen year old bride too and you know what? My husband and I are still in love after being married for 16 years and two kids later. We've gained some weight been through illnesses and even some autoimmune problems and we are still going strong and we are still eachothers best friend. When you know that you are with the right person you know. God Bless y'all!
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Heather Robart
7/18/2018 12:16:48 pm
My husband and I have been together for almost 18 years(this November). There were many people who told us that we didn't know what love was and that our relationship would never last(we started dating at the beginning of our 8th grade school year). We made some choices then that made us parents a year and a half later. Our oldest daughter turned 16 in April, and since then we have added 2 more daughters to our family(the middle 1 turns 10 at the end of this month and the baby turns 6 in November). On July 6, 2018 we celebrated our 11th Wedding Anniversary and we are still as much in love as the day we met nearly 18 years ago. We still hear stories from family members about how worried they were that we would never amount to anything and would end up shuffling our oldest daughter back and forth between 2 families because we would eventually break up. Both of us finished high school with the rest of our graduating class. I completed the Cosmetology program to become a licensed Cosmetologist. The went back to school a few years later and began my Associates Degree in Applied Science for Medical Assistant and completed the exam to become Certified. He has worked fulltime as an Arborist for the past 12 years and continues to provide for our family. Nobody except you can determine where your life will take you. Love is real, it's up to you to decide when it hits you. Some people learn what love is earlier than others and that's okay. Don't get me wrong, there have been many struggles along the way, but we have made it through and come out stronger each time. I am so excited to see where the rest of our life takes us. From Graduations to grand babies (those can wait a few more years), bring it on because we are ready:) Congratulations to you and your husband, love is the key to making it last!!
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Priscilla
7/18/2018 03:01:38 pm
Keep your head up and follow your heart. I met my husband when I was 17. Twenty years later and we just celebrated our anniversary. My dad hated him. Told me it would never last and that we were making a big mistake. I followed my heart and we have 2 beautiful kids now that are 14 and 12 and are still in love. I wish you the best.
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Krystal
7/18/2018 05:31:49 pm
I got married at 19-knew my husband for 8 months prior to that. I got those same questions, and no I wasn't pregnant! We have been married for 20 years this past May. Things can and do work out!
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Audrajo
7/18/2018 06:26:41 pm
My husband and I married when I was 19, 12 and 1/2 years later we have two beautiful girls and a home. My husband is the first person I want to talk to in the morning, and the last before falling asleep. I wouldn’t change a thing about our journey together.
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Melissa
7/18/2018 08:02:57 pm
I was married young as well my husband was 19 and I just turned 20 we got married 7/18/1992 and we are still married till this day celebrating our 26 th Anniversary we have been together for 30 yrs and have four sons 23, 21, 20, and 10 and a 9 month old grandson we have been through everything that could tear you apart richer and poorer sickness my husband was diagnosed with cancer in 2013 we spent our 21 Anniversary with him getting chemo and he almost died right before Christmas I prayed that god wouldn’t take him from me to let me keep him a little longer yes we struggle to keep things going but we have each other and I thank god everyday for him never give up on someone you love and never let someone tell you that your marriage will never last God bless your marriage to last eternity congrats
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Your words were encouraging I'm certain to many a young bride! I married just days after turning 21. My husband was 29 and just home from the Marines. That first year was so hard! But we worked at it, and we grew! Thirty one years and ten children later, we couldn't be more in love unless it was tomorrow...and then it would be more than today! Make a decision to seek God, and never quit on each other and you will have an amazing married life! Congratulations!
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Danielle
7/18/2018 08:57:26 pm
My husband and I are high school sweethearts! I love this post and it will surely reach someone who needs to see it! We met when I was 15 he was 17, we dated for 9 years and married at 23/25 and are going strong into year 3. We have a special bond that SO many people point out, we are asked a lot if we are newly weds and explain our story. The thing I love about our love is that we have grown up together and that bond you grow through those years is special, you learn things about yourself together. I wish my family would have been more supportive when we got engaged, it made that time stressful and made us doubt our choices at times, we waited 3 years to get married and they were all very supportive leading up to the wedding and have been ever since. I would never change a thing.
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Cheyenne Barrett
7/18/2018 10:50:33 pm
Oh my god this is so inspiring I am young I am only 18 and my fiance is only 20 so I can relate so much to this and this is so true I am thankful I found this bc it really speaks to me so thank you
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Bridget
7/19/2018 05:27:37 am
Listen dear young lady. I was 18 and my husband was 20 when we married. We only knew each other 6 wks. I loved him with all my heart. When I was almost 20 I had our first child,.
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Vallerie
7/19/2018 11:41:12 am
Wow. This resonated so much with and I loved it! My husband and I were 21 when we decided to get married and people still wondered if I was pregnant and said we were “too young”. My own mother thought I was too young which is hilarious considering she got married at 21 and then had me at 22. I’m 22 now almost 23 and not pregnant. It’s amusing to listen to others say we’re too young when most of their generation was married by 21. Anyway this was very well written and amazing!
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Rose
7/19/2018 04:54:03 pm
I'm 18 and getting married in 3 months so this was really encouraging thank you so much
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Terri
7/20/2018 08:58:07 am
I also got married at nineteen. That was twelve years ago come October. Although there were many challenges to face because of our lack of experience in life, we still made it. You grow and mature together. It’s a special process that not many people think about or get to experience.
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LISA RICHARDSON
7/20/2018 05:54:31 pm
HONEY I WAS EIGHTEEN WHEN I MARRIED WE WERE VERY YOUNG BUT IN LOVE WE HAD BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3 YEARS , EVERYONE SAID THEY ARE TO YOUNG THEY WILL NEVER MAKE IT , WE HAD 3 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN WE WERE ALWAYS TOGETHER WHEN YOU SEEN ONE YOU SEEN BOTH EXCEPT HIS WORK LOL BUT WE WERE ALL ABOUT OUR LIVES WITH OUR CHILDREN WE WERE MARRIED 16 YEARS THEN DEATH DONE US PART HE WAS KILLED IN A AUTO ACCIDENT BUT THERE IS NO DOUBT IN MY MIND IF HE WAS STILL ALIVE THAT WE WOULDN'T STILL BE TOGETHER WATCHING OUR NOW GRANDCHILDREN GROW UP AND I THANK THOSE WHO SAID WE WOULD NEVER MAKE IT BECAUSE THAT MADE US FIGHT HARDER AT OUR MARRIAGE NOT THAT WE HAD TO FIGHT TO HARD WE HAD A WONDERFUL MARRIAGE YES WE HAD OUR DISAGREEMENTS BUT NEVER ONE TIME DID WE CALL EACH OTHER A NAME , THROW THINGS, LIFT OUR HANDS TO ONE ANOTHER , SO TO ME WE HAD THE PERFECT MARRIAGE IN OUR EYES AND WE WERE STILL AS MUCH IN LOVE THE DAY GOD TO HIM HOME AS WE WAS THE DAY WE SAID I DO , WORK HARD AT YOUR MARRIAGE RESPECT ONE ANOTHER AND SHOW THESE PEOPLE YOU MAY BE YOUNG BUT THIS MARRIAGE WILL WORK GOD BLESS YOU BOTH AND HAVE A GREAT JOURNEY TOGETHER
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A
7/21/2018 11:55:11 am
THANK YOU FOR THIS. I got married at 18 years old. I met my love in high school and waited for him on a mission. We got married just a few months after he got home. People tried to make me feel dumb and naive, as well. But they just didn’t get it. It’s the best decision I’ve ever made. My husband is my everything. I’ve grown and learned so much in the past half year of marriage, that I would have never been able to if I didn’t take the leap. And I took it and learned everything with my best friend by my side.
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Nickie
7/23/2018 07:08:32 am
My husband and I were married at 19, and 33 years later, all that rocky, problematic stuff happened, we weren't ready either, but we figured it out!
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Jennifer
7/23/2018 08:55:31 am
This is an amazing , beautiful Blog , I actually would like to call it. A BEAUTIFUL LOVE STORY ! You my dear are a beautiful soul with so much more to give and tell.Congrats .
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Kayla
7/23/2018 11:12:14 am
Thank you so much!! This was very encouraging for me! I have heard all the whispers and dealt with the doubt that comes with those whispers myself, and it’s refreshing and encouraging to know that those who choose love at young ages are just as important as those who choose when they are 30. I am 20 and getting married in a week and a half and we’ve heard all of the negativity, so thank you for reminding me how much this decision is worth it.
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Will Rodriguez
7/25/2018 08:43:41 am
My wife and I were married JUST out of high school and were plagued with the same stigmas; we were NOT pregnant and we were actually in love. In fact, we're STILL in love. Twenty-three years of marriage and I still flirt with my wife.
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Sofeea Huslage
7/25/2018 01:03:19 pm
Love this post! I wished I could have read it while I was going through my engagement process! I got engaged at 17 and married two months after I turned 18. It was so difficult but thankfully family made it ok. I'm 19 now, have been married for a year and a half and now I'm facing new challenges! Guess what! It's worth every moment! I love my husband and together we serve the Lord who is in turn blessing us! Good luck on your journey!
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Kim Lund
7/26/2018 10:16:39 am
I was married at age 17, and I too was talked about and ridiculed about marrying so young. All of those who said nasty stuff about me have been married countless times, and I have been married 40 years. So I say follow your heart. Don't let others dictate what you should do. If you are going to be married, just remember it is not easy. You have to be totally committed to not only yourself but your new husband. Never go to bed mad at eachother, work out the little things because they can become big things. Always speak your mind, don't just sit back and let it go.
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Denra
7/30/2018 03:16:47 pm
I met my husband in May of 1998, he proposed in August of 1998 and we were married in January of 1999. We have been happily married for going on 20 years. When it’s right, it’s right. How long you have known each other does matter. God brought him into my life and it was his plan not ours. I do believe that whole heartedly. I was 28 and had 1 kid and he was 27. We had our first daughter a year later and our last 16 months after that. Yes there are things I would better in our marriage if I could but I was blessed with a wonderful man and I could not ask for anyone better. He has spent most of our marriage traveling for work but it works for us. God bless you and your husband in your upcoming marriage.
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Wally
8/3/2018 09:39:46 pm
I married my wife when I was 20 and she was 19. We’ve been married for 33 years this year. We have been through many things over those years but I couldn’t even imagine doing life without her! She and I have had may happy times but also challenges, tragedies and heart aches but we survived every storm becaus JESUS IS CENTER OF OUR MARRIAGE. HE IS THE CENTER OF OUR LIVES! May God bless you and your husband. Prove all the naysayers wrong. True love will outlast all of that!
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Lisa
8/13/2018 01:28:56 am
My sister (& best friend) was married at 19. (She was pregnant) & now that baby boy has a 3 year old son & a daughter on the way. My sister & her husband also had 3 more sons & just celebrated their 33rd wedding anniversary. They are one of the happiest families I know. Age is just a number. God bless you & your husband.
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Tracie
9/29/2018 09:22:49 pm
I was married less than one month after I turned 18. That will be 30 years ago on Oct 22. Do not let anyone destroy your love. I am married to my best friend and I wouldn’t change a thing!! I would do it all over again.
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Desta Wynne
1/17/2019 08:46:21 am
It doesn't matter what age to get married. My mom was 19 when she got married. My parents been together for 30 years (31 years in July).
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Jana
9/22/2019 08:16:45 am
Even getting married at age 21, my husband and I were looked down upon. People said we were babies, we were too young, it won’t last and it was just demeaning. I really felt everything you felt in your story and support you because everyone feels love differently. It should be no one else’s decision. What makes me me laugh though is the fact that both our grandparents and great grandparents got married when they were 19 and 20 years old and one of which was pregnant when they got married!! I child out of wedlock!! Oh my goodness!!
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Ede Rios
5/12/2020 10:46:08 am
I was 19 when I got married we will be celebrating our 25th year anniversary on May 23rd! Same things that are being said to you were said to me. Marriage is hard but if you focus on each other’s needs you too will someday celebrate 25 years. May God bless your marriage!
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